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That's when you most need to do it.
Here's a link for you. Just listen to it with headphones and try to say the phrases out loud along with her (or repeating after her if there are pauses between them). Nice female voice for you even.
You do not have to believe these phrases as you say them. It's like when someone says "don't think about a horse," and because humans are so silly, we immediately think of a horse.
You say these things and the phrases are stated in such a way that they trick your subconscious into believing. People say it even works if you play these through headphones as you sleep, because your subconscious brain still hears a lot of it. Your brain is already affecting you with things that are not true, "I'm a total loser" "I'll never have any friends" "I should not have moved to this city." Whatever.
Doing things feels hard because you're avoiding the emotions that come from negative thoughts about the thing you want to do, and what those negative thoughts might mean about you. It's a trap. If your brain is saying shit to you like "should/shouldn't have" or "always/never" it's cue right away that whatever your brain is saying is not true. Positive affirmations will help.
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