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If someone is nice that doesn't know you they want something. Which most of the time is fine, maybe all they want is to not feel lonely. If it isnt crystal clear that what they want is that or something like that be on guard. People aren't very open with strangers passes the age of 4 years old.
If someone wants to include you in any kinda deception get out of the situation.
Be aware of any attempt to size you up. Are they trying to figure out how much money you have, are you the type to go to the cops, do you have any easy blackmail routes. "Oh what kinda work do you do?" Is a classic.
It all comes down to sex money or loyalty. Anyone trying to go after you wants some combo of the three. The person who is not attracted to you, doesn't care what fancy toys you have, and will only tell you about their religion/cult/whathaveyou if you ask about it is the one you can trust.
Lastly "let me talk it over with my wife" is pretty much going to get you out anything. Anyone being honest will be fine with that answer to pretty much any suggestion. If I invite a friend to say a BBQ I want him to bring his wife if I am going to try to sell you the Eiffle Tower I know it is just that much work scamming two vs one.