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Finding likeminded people in yours 30s and 40s can be tough. I've had good luck meeting people at volunteer events that align with my hobbies/passion - for me it's IT so I go to repair events, but also go to local community cleanup days, food banks, etc. I'm sure there's something out there that works for your interests.
If volunteering isn't your cup of tea, try taking a class at community college! There's plenty of adult education courses that are mostly for fun and only last a few nights, like How to Make Pasta From Scratch, or How to Paint a Simple Oil Painting. They tend to draw a diverse crowd and it's easy to chat and make friends. And maybe there will be a spark!
Don't put too much pressure on your weight or baldness. That's exactly the type of guy that many folks are looking for. Don't wait until you fit your own idea of attractiveness to find someone who loves you for you!