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How much time have you spent being single?

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you're currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

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[–] xigoi@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?

About 14 years (I’m 22).

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Not by choice.

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

No.

What are / were the pros and cons?

Pros: More free time, less drama

Cons:

  • I don’t get to experience what it feels like to be loved or to have any kind of intimacy (cuddling, kissing, sex, pair dancing, etc.)
  • It will be much harder to find affordable housing once I stop being a student
  • I feel excluded when my friends talk about their relationships
  • My parents are going to be disappointed
  • If I want to have children in the future (I’m not sure yet), it probably won’t be a possibility

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

Yes, obviously.

[–] WildPalmTree@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

Short but to the point comment: at 22, you have more than 10 years to have children. Probably closer to 20. Release yourself from the invisible trap you are in.