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Atheists of lemmy, what is your coping strategy when things goes downhill? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by lolan@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I am at an accepting stage that not everything that happens in your life is in your control. When things goes really bad and you dont have much control on it, I would assume a person who believes in god or religious figures has their belief system as a coping mechanism. For example praying to the god and so on.

I passed that stage where you believe a single entity has a complete control of each and everything happens in this entire universe. So falling back to god and thinking it is all according to the plan and he will find out some solution is not really an option for me. At the sametime I also acknowlede that there are some gray areas where science can't provide a logical explanation so as to why this is happening to some of the life events.

So to atheists of lemmy, how do you cope up with shits that happens in your life that you can't explain logically and you really don't have much control?

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[–] Apollo2323@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Look at Stoicism. It is a very interesting philosophy from the Greeks , you can learn more here : https://youtu.be/EFkyxzJtiv4?si=ZQSdcIz58lnfl-Og

[–] Dressedlikeapenguin@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

This is the best secular world view I've found. Since leaving religious thinking behind, I wondered abit between nihilism and the world is what you make it. The Dichotomy of Control really resonated with me. Funny enough, I started rereading Epictetus' Enchiridion The book, How to be a Stoic by Massimo Pigliucci is good to. I found it more accessible. Here is a video with him https://youtu.be/qjz5a8X9LjU?si=0OsptyOS7MvHiYw0

[–] sub_ubi@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Looks like the stoics found a life raft from reddit

[–] Apollo2323@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 year ago

Sorry English is not my first language, what you mean by life raft? Like you mean stoics found a way out of Reddit?

[–] lolan@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you!! It is really an intersting perspective. I will research more in this.