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Sometimes whatever it is is just out of your control anyway. Lost a great freind because a now exfriend of mine lied about me to get closer to her and date her. Intially just thought she was going through something. They, shockingly, ended up splitting but honestly I have zero interest in talking to her again if she's willing to believe that type of things about me. Still waiting for my chance to fuck with that guys life though. I'm a petty son of a bitch if you give me the opportunity.
So I'm not trying to judge or talk shit, but I am curious. Why would you choose to live that way? At least in my experience, being petty or spiteful always makes me feel worse. You might be happier if you let it go, especially since you by your own admission you wouldn't be friends again anyway.
Because I have to choose between either having to see him or no longer being friends with basically the only friends I still have. So it's either I have to see his ass or I recluse. Spite is me coping with that, and it feels fine tbh. I don't think about him unless topics like this come up or I have to see him. It's not like it's running my life or anything, I'm just looking for my opportunity.
Ya, I'm sorta over it. The guy expressed constant like "anything you like I'll hate even if i only start after you indicate your liking" and he's honestly someone I wouldn't confide super personal or controversial things in cuz I felt the need to be a bit more polished.
I also expressed i considered him my best even that might not be reciprocated and he never denied or fought that characterization too hard. I just never dreamed he was actually as flaky and delicate as hes demonstrated here so honestly its whateves.
On the plus, he's balding anyway and I won't share the cure with him because he would just hate it and go out of his way to avoid it the moment I shared it since it came from me. I like when people act contrarily towards me to benefit of their own peril and write me off as someone who doesn't have wise or useful insights cuz I read and question