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  • authenticity -> real and genuine

  • autonomy -> seperate individual (not enmeshed)

  • curiosity -> growth mindset and learning constantly

  • growth -> improving functioning and increased awareness of change and adapting to new circumstances

  • peace -> absence of conflict and abnegation of other people's drama/entitlements

  • pleasure -> enjoying or benefitting from the actions I take and consequences of those I maintain relationships with

  • respect -> genuine care for recognizing and upholding other's needs where it is safe and not incompatible with your own

  • reciprocity -> balanced approach to give/take and being mutually-attentive to signs of imbalance

  • safety -> avoiding things, people, places, situations that hurt you or cause you to be unable to enforce the protections you need to accomodate yourself in the context

  • stabillity -> expectation of consistency and balance and sustainabillity in one's relationship with anything/anyone.

These are sort of a rough outline of mine, how about yours Lemmings? Mine aren't exhaustive but these are the core simplest profile I could break down. Feel free to steal anything and add to your collection ;)

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[–] DantesFreezer@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

What would you pick as your top 3? Top 2?

I see autonomy sorta winding through this one, any thoughts on why that's a big deal for you?

Curious as I've done this exercise before but only in short lists. I think I did it in couples therapy once as well, and, yeah, autonomy probably not a good one in the setting.