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After the host asked a bewildered scientist what his pronouns were, I just couldn't listen any more.
That does sound like something that works sick with you for days, if not years. I’m so sorry that you’ll spend the rest of your life having flashbacks on someone asking someone else how they like to be addressed.
To ask someone their pronouns at the beginning of a 1-to-1 conversation is pretty weird. After all, the only possible pronoun is "you", which is not gendered in English (thank goodness!).
So really this could only be ideological posturing. Appropriate for a podcast called "Ologies" maybe, but I prefer to avoid ideology.
What are you talking about? Alie constantly does asides where she talks about the interviewer in the third person or expands upon their comments.
You're right. Next time I chat with a stranger who looks and sounds like a man I'm gonna open with "So, he-him?" If you really think this is normal and necessary and not-weird, you're living in a place most people are not. You know this already, of course. Indeed you probably feel morally superior about being in with the weird codes. Like this host, you're on the team, you know how to talk. And that's the heart of the issue cos what we have here is a coded form of sanctimony, and nothing drives ordinary folks crazy like sanctimony.
Yes your reaction here really screams ordinary.
I’ve literally never asked someone for pronouns or been asked. And don’t plan to start. It also doesn’t bother me one iota that the host does this.
I don’t host a show I’m airing out to other people so it doesn’t really affect my life. It really seems to affect yours, though.
If someone corrects me on pronouns, I apologize and use the correct pronouns because I’m a normally functioning adult.
She does it on almost every podcast and I’ve never heard it take more than 10 seconds or have any pushback / confusion