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[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

I really don't think relying on something having come from PBS to prove it isn't bullshit, or worse, "a universal truth", is the best plan..

To reiterate my previous point - human beings don't need to be taught to love or be kind or share or cooperate, those things are hardwired in us, have been for tens if not hundreds of thousands of years, so there is no need for you to remember who taught you these things, because no one did.
What we are taught, in large by the media as well as education systems (beyond maybe pre-school where kids are still allowed to just be kids rather than worker drones in training), and our parents, who were indoctrinated in the same ways we are, is that the opposite is true and that we are designed to compete, and "the strongest survive" and all that other capitalistic, white supremacist, patriarchal, cisheteronormative, ableist bullshit designed to divide us and keep us from turning on those imposing these artificial systems.

So again - asking where you learned to love will never get you an answer, because you were born that way. If you want to know why, as an adult, it doesn't seem true or acceptable anymore, but more importantly - to combat the problem, you have to be asking who is engineering this natural instinct out of society and making you believe it isn't ok to love everyone, and why.

[–] Phil_in_here@lemmy.ca 2 points 9 months ago

Humans have hit living things with sticks and rocks since we learned it hurts them more than us. You can't blame patriarchy or the media for that.

Hate and fear are inherent to people. But that's like how we have an inherent appetite for sugar, fat, and salt.

Love is like exercise. Sometimes kids want to do nothing, sometimes all they want to do it run around. They need to learn that it is good for them and ultimately makes them feel good. Some do on their own, some need to be taught, and some don't learn it and make a point to avoid it. And the longer you go without doing it, the harder it is to start again.

We built societies and civilizations on the very idea of being greater than our nature.