Well, I can only comment on my social group and that is the only group i am concerned about in this context. So, it is 'most people' for me.
If your behavior can at all be described as sexist, then you're not a feminist.
I hate this polar thinking so much. Everything is not all or none, yes or no, black or white. People are unique and everything is a spectrum. Even Hitler had admirable qualities and if this makes you uneasy, you need to open up your mind.
Feminism is equal rights and opportunities for everyone. My added thing is equal responsibilities. This is the dictionary type of definition.
Most people (at least the vocal ones) are either completely sexist (both sides - feminazis and sexist men) or think it is only about promoting interests of women.
I can’t give you all the possible views off the top of my head but I'll try.