lady_maria

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[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Me too. That just sounds even more exhausting than my life already is

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

AskLemmy's name is modeled after the Reddit thread AskReddit, which was basically the same concept.

In the future, I suggest reading a page's description and rules before posting. The information is there for a reason, after all.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I do this too. Though instead of a hard-boiled egg, I like to fry one so the yolk is still a little runny, and put it on top.

Recently, I've been making a vinaigrette with olive oil, vinegar, dijon mustard, salt/pepper, honey, and Lao Gan Ma spicy chili crisp. It's pretty damn good.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago

Trying to mentally/emotionally distance myself from my "customer service" job. Like, pretending I'm not a CSR, but that I'm playing the role of a CSR in a show, or something. After over 10 years working jobs like this, and for multiple reasons, the stress and asshole customers have been making me even even more miserable than necessary lately.

At the very least, this is helping me stay cool-headed and friendly enough to piss off angriest/most condescending callers, which can be pretty cathartic sometimes. It's not so effective when it's overwhelmingly busy, though.

Also, calling my lawyer, which was extremely stressful to me for literally no logical reason. Actually, I had a reason to look forward to it.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Technically, they just taste like pork, so you might be ok?

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 20 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

We dont want to marry a 304.

Plenty of "304"s ARE married. Sorry to disappoint.

a pandemic of single females

This is so funny to me, because single women are overall happier than married women, and for very good reasons.

This is far from being a pandemic. It's a liberation... from shitty men like you, who insist that they're the prize, simply because they are men. This has been a looooonnnggg time coming.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago

Nah, it's cute on her

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago

It's really frustrating how little value so many adults assign to the thoughts and feelings of kids. I felt the effects of that a lot while growing up.

Idk. If it were up to me, I think I'd make the voting age maybe 14 or 15. It's not that an 8-year-old's feelings don't matter (to me, at least), but you need to allow them enough time and brain development to be able to start to learn about and understand these kinds of things.

There should also be accompanying education surrounding different political ideologies, history, policies, propaganda tactics, ect., but I'm sure that'd be very unpopular with a lot of parents.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago

I'm horribly afraid of heights and can't even stomach a normal wall climb (like with a harness and everything) without quivering like a leaf.

Also most BIG bugs, especially if they have a lot of legs... though I think I'd probably be fine with a tarantula, for some reason. No idea why. The small ones are usually fine, minus wasps and hornets.

I'm kind of afraid of the dark too, but it's also not really about the darkness itself. I'll find myself vividly envisioning things like a snarling wolf suddenly lunging from the darkness to tear my throat out, or a large, unhinged man sneaking up behind me, or some shit like that. It usually only happens outdoors in rural areas where nights are much darker, which allows my imagination to run more wildly than usual. Thankfully, I live in a city now.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Not needing to eat would definitely be a huge strength.

Of course not needing to eat would be a strength. There's a significant difference between that and what I said, though. Not eating when you need to is not the same as not needing to eat at all. There is no choice but to eat if you are to survive, just as there is no choice but to cry when you need to in order to be mentally and emotionally well.

Crying IS the mental breakdown. It's what you do when you need someone else's help because you can't do it yourself(weakness).

I strongly disagree. Crying is only a release of emotion on its own. Just because someone is crying doesn't inherently mean that they're having a mental breakdown.

I'm a crier. It's extremely fucking annoying, but nevertheless a part of me. I weep when I'm sad, stressed, pissed off. On occasion, I even shed happy tears.

Am I having a mental breakdown when I cry while watching a sad movie? When I'm justifiably angry about an injustice in the world or my personal life? Definitely not.

I've experienced more than my fair share of real mental breakdowns, but that number is dwarfed by the number of times I've cried.

A The problem here is that people prey on you when they see that weakness, and a civilized society should not do this.

While that's true, it doesn't change the fact that we need an emotional outlet to be well. Those emotions will be there whether or not you release them when you feel the need to.

If you try to suppress them, you're more likely to be incapacitated by them—even physically—if they eventually become too much to handle. It's just postponing a smaller weakness for a larger one later on.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 5 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

Sure. Though you could argue that needing food, water, and sleep is a sign of weakness, too.

Simply existing automatically comes with these "weaknesses", so I don't see the point in assigning them with a negative value, as your perspective seems to. I doubt many people would claim that not drinking water is a sign of strength. Why should crying be any different?

Now, having a mental breakdown because you haven't allowed yourself to feel your emotions, though? Or lashing out at others because you haven't learned how to regulate yourself? Now, that's about as emotionally and mentally weak as you can get.

[–] lady_maria@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

I'm sorry. That's so shitty. I really don't get women who are like that. The ability to express emotion (in a healthy way) is one of the most attractive traits one can have, imo.

My AMAB (and non-binary, though they didnt realize that until like 9 years into our relationship) partner has cried in front of me COUNTLESS times. Because they're a fucking human being who has feelings. It's really not hard to understand if you take even just one moment to empathize.

 

I was crossing a crosswalk early this morning on my way to the bus stop for work, while the walk sign was on, and the driver turned left onto a main road from a stop light and smashed into my left side. I was later told that I "flew up into the air".

It was all very much a blur and I was pretty dizzy and out of it at first, but no head trauma. Some kind lady who said she was a nurse ran to help me up and to the side of the road, and the cops and ambulance came pretty fast (I think, at least).

I was taken to the hospital and was told that I fractured my humerus head (left shoulder). They told me I may not need surgery, but we'll see what the orthopedic surgeon says during my follow-up appointment in a few days. Other than that, I just have a bunch of scrapes and bruises.

Overall, while I'm in quite a bit of pain, I'm grateful because it could've been way worse. My SO and parents are pushing to sue for pain/suffering, which I was hesitant to do until I read (online) that I wouldn't be suing the person who hit me, but their insurance company), so I guess that'll probably happen. They already found me a lawyer.

I truly have no ill-will toward that person because shit happens, it was dark, and they got out of the car immediately to call 911, so it's not like they didn't do what was right when it came down to it. I'm sure they're traumatized, and that their insurance payment will go way up... which I feel a little bad about given the state of the US rn. But I guess I don't have any control over that.

Honestly, while the whole thing was obviously pretty traumatic for me, too—and I keep replaying that moment in my head—I think I'd rather get hit by a car than hit someone with my car.

 

Personally, most of my life has been both difficult and unpleasant due to mental health issues (and capitalism), so I'm just proud of myself for still being here.

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