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When my son was born, I casually asked his mother (my now-ex-wife) whether he should be circumcised because it was a question on a form. I hadn't thought about till then, we hadn't discussed it. She was vehemently against it, and I didn't care one way or the other, so that was the end of that.

There won't be any bullying about this, because most boys don't see each other naked anymore, in P.E. for instance, at least not in the U.S., and most boys are not circumcised now.

Of course, circumcision started with and is tied to religious BS, but in the sixties, when I was born, it was so common even my atheist parents had it done to their two sons. I supposed it was recommended for "health reasons", I dunno. Also, my dad was, but I don't know why--I don't know much about that side of my family.

It's just how I've always been, I've never resented them for having it done. I've never wished I wasn't or wondered what I missed, or had any desire to try to recreate it. I'm sure my uncircumcised son feels the same way, we haven't discussed it.

There will always be one kid who will try and find something to bully someone else about.

Not American, not circumcised and I never want to be.

No why would I want to mutilate my dick

I'm Chinese-American, male, was born in mainland China, immigrated to the US. Family is not really religious, I didn't get mutilated, and no I do not want to get mutilated.

I was actually shocked when I learn that Americans, particularly Christians, do this shit. WTF. I also learned that some tribes around the world also do (or used to do) this. Felt sick just hearing that word.

(Edit: To be clear, I mean no offense to my fellow Americans, I like this country for the most part, but forcing religion on kids and government corruption are probably two of the biggest thing I hate)

Learning about "bloodletting", and "witchhunt" made me hate previous eras.

And when I learned about this thing called "lobotomy", I just... idk kinda have a "new fear unlocked" moment for me...

...humans are so fucked up.

Please don't mutilate your children. We're supposed be advanced civillizations (I'm talking about humanity as a whole), how are being still doing outdated "bloodletting"-type of stuff?

(Only exception would be if its medically necessary, and a doctor, without being influenced by religion, recommended it)

The rates are falling in America so you son probably won't be the only kid with a foreskin. That said do remember there is a small chance of death from blood loss. No really that happens a few times a year.

I'm not a parent but I think in general unnecessary cosmetic surgery should be left up to the individual especially when it is related to genitals. I understand wanting to help them conform to norms to try to give them an easier life and there are some surgeries I think make sense like a cleft palate or an infant with burns, but if it's not necessary you're taking away their bodily autonomy and I think that's a very important line morally. You need to determine if you think it's necessary or unnecessary, and if the discomfort of a possible later in life surgery pushed it past the moral boundary or not.

I'm American and not circumcised, my wife and I chose not to circumcise our son because there really isn't anything to gain from it. In my mind it's no different than the removal of the hood from around a womans clitoris, it would cause a lot of pain and discomfort until the area is more "desensitized" by constant overstimulation. As someone that has only ever had a penis, and never a circumcised one, it's all just speculation on my part.

As someone who's circumcised, I think it's a practice we should leave behind. Buddy getting bullied was more about victimization than circumcision. Likewise any future partner that has that as a deal breaker either way is a bullet dodged.

That being said, I think some people overplay the victim card on this one. I think some people use it as a scapegoat to avoid acknowledging other issues like porn addiction, intimacy issues, and sexual incompatibility within relationships.

Than there's the people who try to conflate a hospital performed medical procedure with Female Genital Mutilation from like rural Africa or India.

AFAIC if your biggest problem in life is that you're circumcised... shut the fuck up? Or complain about something more important than your own dick.

TLDR: Don't do it.

American Penis owner here, uncircumcised. So fun and no issues.

British penis owner here. Cirumcision is rare in this country and as far as I know the rest of the world. I imagine most British people would find it strange, the inverse of your friend's experience. My instinct is to say don't perform an unnecessary medical procedure on your child and let them decide as an adult. You can't put a foreskin back on. But I sympathise with the cultural aspect of it you're having to contend with in the USA.

Side note: I once considered getting circumcised. I was in a BDSM relationship. My penis was consensually "hers" and she liked it after being with a Jewish guy. If it had become a long term relationship I might have done it.

I'll trade fore some skin

I'm genuinely upset about not getting a say in the matter.

When a person gets circumcised they lose a ton of sensitivity and feeling from their dick, and it permanently degrades the quality of any sexual gratification they will have in their life.

And that's not even touching on how fucked up it is to mutilate a child's genitals for a religon that they can't even consent to.

My 2¢: don't

I was circumcised at birth by my parents, and it's a source of frustration I have with them. Since it's irreversible, there's nothing I can do about it though.

Personally, I think circumcised penises look unnatural and weird.

Just don't circumcize your kid. I am and didn't do it for my kid, and even if he has issues, it's his choice to make the body mod if it's wanted. Kids will always have some kind of issue or get made fun of for something, no reason to snip the tip of his penis off unless it's needed imo.

What. The. Fuck.

As a circumcised male, please don't. Like countless others have said, it's a bizarre cultural practice that leads to a desensitized tip, and most of the world thinks it's fucked up. There's literally no benefits.

I have never ever wished that. But I'm also not American or Jewish so I wasn't bullied for being intact.

If you want your child to resent you for mutilating them with unnecessary surgery without their consent, go for it. If you want to be a good parent, don’t.

Uncircumcised and never really thought about getting it done.

Also I will say that I met this girl about 30 years ago that did this thing with her tongue that made me reaaallllly happy to have my foreskin. I've since shown this 'action' to every partner I've had 😁.

So I'm no longer a penis haver since I got it removed entirely, but before that I was uncut. In my case I never had anything negative happen health or social. It helped with logistics for sex while going from just starting to everything isn't quite fully lubey yet, plus it was another bit of sensitive skin to toy around with.

As far as the removal part I am trans and had mtf surgery. Foreskin is analogous to clitoral hood skin. It gave my surgeon more to work with both aesthetically and for adding areas of increased sensitivity.

But really the argument should start and end with "don't make medically unessecary changes to your kid's body until they're old enough to consent"

I'm an intact American man.I have never wished I was circumcised.

I haven't ever been bullied for it. If I was, I think I'd first accusing the bully of being homosexual for taking an interest as loud as I could. Start calling him Gaylord Cockstarer in mixed company. Find out what hobbies his dad has, start doing that hobby, befriend his dad, tell him this story, see if you can get his dad to start calling him Gaylord Cockstarer.

Women who are grossed out...I've had a few hesitate to give me oral, but were willing to try. One, in her own words, wanted to wait until next time so she could "look up how to handle one of these." And she did, too. To the women who would be disgusted at my intact anatomy, I have one question: What part of your body am I allowed to demand you slice off? Kind of a monstrous thing to think about someone, isn't it? Why haven't you cut that part of your body off? If that's what she thinks of men, she can never deserve any dick.

Wtf why. I only learnt americans are circumcized from online forums, keep your retarded habits to yourself guys

Handjobs and foreplay stuff are more fun uncircumsized, like giving a dick a hoodie and pretending its a jedi.

Uncircumcised and have my tonsils. My mother was adamant about having every piece of her children coming home with her. I was on the swim team in high school, and no one teased me about my dick. Plenty of other things, but not that.

I'm circumcised. My young adult sons are. Looking back, I would have made a different choice for them. I don't have a super strong reason for feeling that way except that I don't have a good reason to have done it other than "tradition". But that's a dumb reason to do things.

While it is still more common than not in the US, the rates have been falling for the last 10-15 years.

Never, I'm very happy to be in cut. Just wash myself in the shower, and it's more sensation and fun.

No, never. Circumcision is weird, disturbing, and imo abusive since there’s no consent to having part of your body removed.

I got circumcised in my twenties due to some scarring after I got a fungus or something from my partner. My feedback: do not recommend, absolutely no benefit. On the other hand besides recovery and initial sensitivity, there's no major drawbacks (besides masturbation now requiring lubricant).

I should mention that I'm from EU and there's no social factor here.

No, I have never wished that. But then again no one I know is circumcised

Love my penis, love my foreskin. All good.

My partner just asked me this the other day. Answer is nope, never had a reason to want it.

Never had a partner with a problem with it either. If someone was ever grossed out by something that's just the way I was born then they can learn to deal with it, or fuck off.

Can't say I have ever wished for that. Confused on why I would