Usually it's for others, in that I am trying to avoid an indecency charge.
On the occasion I actually get dressed up, it's for me. I usually don't even leave home...
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I mostly dress for sensory issues and gender dysphoria. For work, I additionally dress to get taken seriously and in my free time, I dress for fun (sparkles, bright colours, frills, think David Bowies more fem looks). So, like most people, a mix of both, with one or the other being a stronger consideration in different situations.
I wore my WATCHING FOX NEWS SHRINKS YOUR PENIS SHIRT to the store yesterday. So I guess I dress for both.
I usually go for function over form. Its why i wear red kap cargo pants with abrasion resistance. Theyve got buncha pockets so i can carry all the things.
I dress to avoid indecency charges.
Both, but it's less about looking good or acceptable to others, it's more about displaying a specific image really.
I dress for the weather.
I have multiple times been passively insulted by fashionistas who said 'you treat clothing like it's functional only'.
no shit I do. And I'm proud of it. fuck fashion and it's classist bullshit.
I mean, manipulating people is technically a 'function' to which one can apply clothing. It's not a good one, but it is a function.
I got tangible perks for wearing certain clothes and helping people in them. It seems like when you dress a bit more formally, people are more likely to think you're going out of your way to help them, and you're more likely to get compensated. That mentality kinda sucks because if you squint a bit, there's a social class bias in play. And I remember a little factoid where someone found out you get scammed less at the dentist if you wear a suit vs if you wear something like a hoodie.
You don't have to share your details but could I ask what yph mean more specifically by 'wearing certain clothes and helping people?'
Mundane things like helping someone carry their groceries from one vehicle to another when we're going down on the same stop. When we're boarded in the same vehicle they enthusiastically pay for my fare.
I tend to experience it more when I'm wearing business casual.
Hell, I BARELY dress for myself, let alone others.
The two deciding factors are "Does this protect me from public indecency laws" and "Am I warm/cool enough in this". Anything goes so long as it meets this criteria.
Both. I like look good in clothes that fit, but I wear what I like, and always have. As a kid, my mother would pick out clothes in the morning, and I'd come down in totally different clothing. I like fashion. I am not gay. And I also like to appear well dressed. And also, 95% of my tshirts are geeky graphic tees, like my Andorian Mining Consortium (Runs from Nobody) shirt.
But it's not like I'm walking around in suits, ever. I just like jeans and shirts that fit, and I hate mundane white bread and mayo fashion, or lack there of.
Comfort is a deciding factor on how I dress. Within that, I try to pull off looks that don't look like ass, which I seem to pull off.
Myself. I stopped following our work dress code after Covid and nobody has complained. Flannel and jeans and a hat == office casual now.
I dress for myself unless I want to try to exploit something, then I'll dress to fit in because a lot of normies are stupid and actually think different types of clothing means something.
I've learned, through the years, what's comfortable for me and still produces an image that others find pleasing. That image is still very comfortable looking, mind you. I've been told that when I'm out I look like "Merlin on vacation..."
Like Sword in the Stone Merlin on vacation?
Picture for reference:
Noone would ever confuse me for someone who dresses for others. Lol
Looking at myself gives me the thoughts of despair so I dress to make people not look at me
I'd be naked if I could tbh
Hell yeah
I am kinda required to wear safety clothes
Why would I even dress if it wasn't for others?
Because I'd be cold.
I don't know the difference. I pretty much live in business casual, but on the weekends I will wear a graphic tee instead of a white undershirt. Maybe I leave my button down shirt open. It's what I would choose to wear in any instance I leave the house. I'm comfortable in my clothes.
At home for myself, at work for others.
when I dress for myself it's usually in funky, slightly silly clothing
when I dress for others it's as low-effort business casual for a zoom meeting square as possible
Fuck others, I need to be comfortable.
Am Neurodivergent.
i would dress for myself but my cat will get hair over my outfit so the only time I can really dress is when I'm out of the house
Is that a calico/tabby?
shes a mess, thats for sure! 😂
i believe that is correct, but I'm not that educated on kitty types so I could be wrong.
here's a photo that shows off her coat more
What a pretty DuBb IdOT!
we are a social species I don't know what the difference is
You don't know the difference between dressing for yourself vs dressing for others? Try showing up to court in an inflatable costume! Or just go a single average day out in public without pants or a shirt on (even with undergarments)...
yea
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I dress so society does not put me into jail for indecency. We are not the same.
If I wasn't dressing for others I'd be naked like 90% of the time.
Myself. Because if I actually was dressing for others I would be taking a lot more objection to looking like a fashionably challenged (albeit very comfortable) hobo at all times, but I dont care about it
The only reason I put pants on is because it's be arrested otherwise.
That being said, comfortable has priority over good looking and I don't think I've ever had a compliment on how I dress since grandma saw me in a suit when I graduated 20 something years ago.
I wouldn't know what anyone else wants me to wear.
Work doesn't count, that shit is mandated and the new boss likes to fire for it.
Everywhere else? For myself as much as society allows it. If I'm going somewhere where my friends/party could face consequences for my outfit, then I dress to fit in. If I'm going to the grocery store or any other errand? I'm wearing whatever the hell is the most comfortable. I'm not drawing lustful gazes when covered in motorcycle gear anyway.
Function over form every day all day. Fuck others.
I've been a jeans and T-shirt guy for well over 30 years at this point.
Function over form every day all day.
This might as well be my motto. Appearance may reflect inside state, but I really don't care as long as it works.
I dress for the weather.
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I dress for the weather and what I'm going to be doing.
I 100% dress for others, I don't really care about clothing, and I hate to buy new clothes. I only do it because I think I may be nearing some limit of what is considered decent to wear in the presence of other people, who 100% always are better dressed than me.
The other day I was at the supermarket, and had seen they had a special offer on "plaice" I think it's called.
Well the special offer was sold out, and I asked an employee if they had anymore.
The employee was extremely nice, and asked how many I had planned to buy? And I said 2, then he took 2 bags that had 50% more content, and wrote the price of the special offer on them, and said I should just mention his name at the register.
I though Wow that stellar service, and it was only when I came home I realized I had some of my worst pants on that are so warn they had holes in them.
I have newer pants, but I don't like them, because they have no sway and they are some sort of stretch material to be tight, and I absolutely hate that. And I also hate shopping for clothes.
Anyways because my clothes are (to put it mildly) sub par for normal people, I figured he probably thought I was some sort of destitute.
I am married, and our economy is absolutely fine, we own an almost paid out house, and we have a car that was bought cash without borrowing, and we have a good amount of money in the bank.
Anyways I don't care, maybe because I don't have to. I just want clothes that are comfortable.
For others. If I'm staying home, I dress like I'm homeless in whatever grungy dirty things that already need washing. If I'm going out, my hair is combed, my threads are fresh and I'm not getting denied entrance to the restaurant. The movie Blast from the Past was pretty stupid, but it did teach me (remind me?) that you dress nice as a courtesy to your friends.
I have more important things to worry about than clothes. Nobody cares what I wear, and frankly neither do I.
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