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Personally yes, absolutely. I guess benefits of being Bi/Pan?
But I can see how some wouldn't. Preference and compatibility matters in a relationship.
If I was to go on a date and found them attractive, I would not disqualify them for being trans.
Im a 50 year old wht sis male (I hope that's right). Tbh, not sure that this would have been my answer 25 years ago.
If they found me attractive as well then hell yeah I'm in!
Love is love.
inaccurate username
I'm a dumbass, not a fucking idiot lol.
Great reply, dumbass
Cheers Stanky!
Sadly no. I want kids of my own someday.
that is a struggle, and with a trans woman it is possible they have frozen sperm and fertility treatments are possible, but having both your sperm and your wife's sperm gets problematic, I don't know if they have a method of accomplishing this.
And you would still need someone to have the baby for you. It's tragic, tbh - I would love to see a succcessful uterus transplant in my lifetime 😭
If there's an expectation of sex we'd have to figure out if we're compatible in that way.
I’m a cis straight guy and I find trans women and trans men attractive… maybe I’m not so straight…
Yes. Penis or vagina matters little to me.
interesting but not surprising to see the focus on gentials - after all the biggest problem (and for some, the biggest perk) has to do with the genital mismatch
It's hard because not all trans people fit a single "type" - some of us get support as children and avoid going through the wrong puberty and live pretty much as cis people (though that doesn't guarantee access to SRS).
I can't remember exactly so take this with a grain of salt, but over half of trans people want SRS but only around 12% actually have had SRS. So statistically it's probably true a given trans person is pre-op.
Anyway, for me dating a trans person comes with a lot more than just gential configuration, it involves their daily experiences of dysphoria, discrimination, the sensitivities about how they want to be touched or not touched, how their voice sounds, their mix of socialized gendered traits, etc.
Absolutely, there’s a lot more to it than just the genitals, but to be fair, everyone has a large number of differences from the mean- I’ve met bio women with very deep voices, with unflattering figures, who’ve experienced misogyny, etc.
Apart from the genitals, everything a trans person had that might differentiate them from a cis person can still be present in a cis person.
I tend to agree, many facets of trans experience are found in cis people. It is not acknowledged how much gender diversity exists in cis populations. Many victims of trans moral panic are cis, often cis women of color are the ones targeted in bathrooms for being mistaken as trans.
I guess with trans people there are some aspects like transition experience that won't exist in cis populations- but I love your point, thank you for that. 💞
Been there, done that. It was great, but didn't last for other reasons. I'm now cis married with kids and don't regret a thing.
Likely not. I'm a cis straight man who tends to be into women who aren't into men, so while particularly feminine women aren’t my thing, the parts matter to me in terms of dating/having sex. Fully post-op and passing would certainly consider, but I know that's not always the goal for trans folks.
Yeah. Half the people I’ve dated are trans.
Sure.
I find like 99% of people unattractive, though, cis and trans alike.
If I found out someone was cis whom I'd otherwise consider dating, it would probably be difficult to maintain interest.