Your dog wants love and attention, not distractions. That may change a bit as they get older but some dogs are just this way.
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PlasmaDistortion is right. Unfortunately your responding to bad behavior with attention is training your pooch to behave badly.
You have to find a humane way to respond a way that the dog dislikes.
For my dog it is simply withdrawing all attention. Pretend she doesn't exist until the behavior corrects. My dog was confused at first and tried harder so I get went about my day like she didnt exist. Finally she moped and laid on the floor so I pet her and said good girl and gave her some cuddles.
Now when she acts out or gets rough I just have to drop my shoulders and look ahead and she calms down pretty quick.
You have to find a humane way to respond a way that the dog dislikes.
Such as? Potential future dog owner here
Immediately and firmly say NO, BAD DOG, while holding eye contact and pointing at them. Then move on. The key is that you have to do it every single time. Dogs need total consistency or they get confused, or try to push the boundaries. The more intelligent the dog, the more important discipline is. But don't turn any discipline into an ongoing punishment. Sensitive dogs get their feelings hurt really easily if you continue shaming them. Say no immediately until you see it had an effect, then redirect them to positive behavior and praise them. They respond a lot better to praise than punishment.
The cool thing is that the more intelligent the dog is, the fewer times you need to praise the right behavior before they learn whatever you're trying to teach them. Also, sensitive dogs respond really well to praise. Being told they're good absolutely makes their days. My little Pomchi learned tricks after about 5 repetitions, and retained them for years, even without doing them again. Some dogs are crazy intelligent.
I have no idea how to give her love and attention other than talking to her constantly. She doesn't like cuddles or too many pets. She sometimes lets me brush her without issue. She's really weird lol. Maybe just hanging out on the floor with her would work? She despises sitting in my recliner with me.
Does she have toys? What about walks?
She has so many toys lol. She gets lots of outside time in the yard with her tie out. I haven't been taking her or my beagle to the park because they have been picking up parasites left and right and I need to get it all straightened out before I'll be comfortable taking them places where other dogs have been. They're on medicine for it and it seems to be working pretty well, but their digestion is wrecked. They get probiotics and special meals. My vet said it may take a while for them to get back to normal. My beagle also just got diagnosed with active lyme and started antibiotics for it, which isn't going to help his belly any.
I try to make their toys new and interesting. I made one of their balls into a tetherball by attaching it to a doorknob with some string The dogs go to it occasionally lol.
She needs more walks outside into interesting places where she can see new things and smells etc. The best way to deal with this is tiring her out with significant physical activity. Swimming is good and she should like that for her breed. Just being tied on a lead all day by herself in the same old yard is not enough. They don’t need to go to an actual dog park, but they need real walks!!
Also, golden doodles are known to be stubborn idiots.
Not park time or off leash time, your dog needs leashed walking through the neighborhood with you. Walk circles around a nearby school or weave through the streets and do "focus" training with her to bond.
We had a dog that liked balls, but when we put a ball inside a sock, he went absolutely bananas. He flipped that thing around the house and yard for hours! Then he carried it off to his bed and slept with it. Try putting a tennis ball inside of a sock.
That's a great idea! My dogs love chomping on plastic, so I can put water bottles and grocery bags in a sock as well.
A tired dog is a happy dog. I would recommend a VERY long walk or a trip to the dog park when you get home from work. Being kenneled all day and night with a brief respite while you are home and awake will lead to some serious pent-up energy, especially in puppies. We have two large dogs we’ve had since puppies and avoided rampant destruction by having a long yard for them to play in, but it requires us to be out there with them playing fetch and running them silly every day when we get home and again before bed. If we don’t, they just sit around outside begging to come in because ultimately they want to be around us.
One of our dogs growing up (golden retriever), would run laps around the house for hours. He would also play fetch, but he would bring a ball back within about 20 feet of you before dancing around in a circle. The only way to get him to drop the ball was to have a second ball ready to go when he got back wit the first one. He would also try to fit as many tennis balls in his mouth as possible, saw him get 3 in successfully once. He was also terrified of floor vents and the downstairs bathroom. He loved to carry socks around, the dirtier the better. He never chewed them, just carried them around in his mouth.
Loved that derpy dog.
I give my dogs outside time a lot. We go out immediately after I get home and only come in when they decide they want dinner. An hour later, it's back outside to play. I don't have a fenced yard yet, but I do have tie outs that they go on. I'm hoping to get my yard fenced within a year.
Going outside into the backyard every day for hours isn’t enough, at least not for her breed - your older beagle probably cares less. Dogs need actual walks, out to new places. Big hour long ones.
If she's just chained to a dog run, then she's probably just going to sit around outside. She needs both physical and mental stimulation. Oh, get her a puzzle feeder, and a puzzle treat dispenser. Get one for your beagle too so you don't need to deal with the theft issue. Those are good for mental stimulation.
I'll have to figure out how to get the beagle from getting both puzzle things. May have to just sit between them
First, scale back your expectations a bit. She is only 4 months old. You said she is crate trained and leash trained, if she also knows some commands like sit and come here you are on a very good pace. Around 4 moths is when you can start with the more advanced commands. Especially having her follow the "come here" command on a longer distance and while outside is going to be your big goal for now.
I would worry more about your beagle fighting over the bones. That's something that needs fixing more so than your 4 old puppy behaving like a puppy.
From the sounds of it, she spends way too much time in her crate. You said she is there while you are at work and over night. If you work 8 hour shifts that's 16 hours a day inside the crate. That's way too long. At her age she isn't even supposed to be in a crate for more than 4-5 hours straight and 8 hours in total should be the maximum for any dog. So when she gets out she really needs to burn energy. Just walking her isn't going to be enough with that much time spent in a crate. So get that intensity up.
In the morning before you go to work you have her play fetch so she can run at full speed and tire herself out and in the afternoon after work you take her to a dog agility training course. Even better would be to eliminate one of the crate time and exchange it for time with a dog sitter or dog day care center.
I understand you are currently worried about your dogs due to the parasites and playing fetch with a dog that's not fully trained yet is also dangerous. So maybe you will have to get active too and start jogging in the morning with them. Depending on your house maybe you can play fetch inside or build them a small obstacle course at home.
At the very least increase the size of the crate. Make it a fenced off part of your house. Just give them more space to play and move while locked up.
Agree with this one. She seems pretty normal for a 4 month puppy! I think give it time, they don't settle till at least after 9 months
Based on your other comments she gets enough activity, perhaps look at puzzle toys (like a frozen stuffed Kong) or snuffle toys for feeding time.
I'm planning on getting her a gigantic crate that I can turn into a playpen for her. I have my living room closed off with baby gates, but she figured out how to open the one. I gotta get a better latch for it. I hate how much my dogs are crated. I don't have any dog daycares near me and the only person I know who agreed dogsit is my sister and she decided to not do it the first day she said she would. I work from home at least one day a week and they are out of their crates the whole time on those days.
I wake up two hours earlier than I need to in the mornings so the dogs can run and play. Mornings are their most intense playtime.
My house is kinda small, so indoor agility courses wouldn't work. I found kits for outdoor courses online that look good.
It's all so overwhelming. I got my beagle when he was 5 months and his biggest issue was his anxiety. He would act out when he got anxious. With work and medication he is very well behaved. Aside from resource guarding bones. I don't give the dogs bones anymore. They share cow hooves though, which is great.
I did not expect my puppy to be so much trouble. My cousin owns the older brother of my puppy and that dog was never this much trouble. Super chill. Complete opposite of mine lol.
You need to exercise her before you try to get her attention. Those dogs have absolutely insane amounts of energy. Think about trying to get the attention of someone who just did 5 lines of pure Columbian cocaine, that's what life is like for your puppy. Get a little backpack for her and put a couple of water bottles in it. Then go play catch at the park for 30-40 minutes. Or go for a run. Or put some roller blades on and let her pull you around (with a proper harness, not a collar). After one or more of those activities is the proper time to train her.
Have you considered separating the beagle and her while she gets to chew on a flavorful bone? Also, discipline the beagle. He needs to understand that he can't just steal things from her. This isn't anthropomorphism, dogs can learn not to steal from each other. Regardless, she should get some time to chew without worrying about defending herself. Chewing is a natural instinct for dogs, and it's important they can satisfy that urge.
Have you tried the crinkle toys? One of our dogs loved the crinkle toys, and the other loved the squeaker toys.
Golden retrievers, and Golden Doodles are pretty insane when they're young. It takes a lot of work to exercise and train them. The good news is that they settle down a lot in a year or two, and then they're a lot easier to deal with. Despite the saying, you can reach an old dog new tricks, so there's still time for training after she grows up a little.
I plan on breaking out a kiddie pool tonight and seeing if she'll swim. I am also going to take her to the park when it cools off a bit. This week is going to be hot.
My dogs LOVE crinkle toys.
Do you have any suggestions on how to get my beagle to share bones?
The pool is a great idea! Most Doodles love water.
We trained our domineering dog not to steal from our smaller dog by sitting between them when they both got bones. When he would try to approach her we would push him back, point at his nose, and firmly say NO. Then we'd redirect him back to his bone, giving him lots of praise. As he started figuring it out we could just say his name in a scolding tone and he'd slink back over to his bone. Eventually he figured it out, and would just look longingly at her bone, despite having the same bone himself. Silly dog!
I will have to try that. I had to do the same thing you did with when teaching them that they each have a good bowl and they need to stay at that bowl to eat. They didn't literally fight over food though. They just nudged each other away to get at the other's bowl.
Oh, then he's already gone through it once and should pick up on what you're telling him pretty quickly. Best of luck! Well trained dogs are awesome dogs. The doodle will be a wild woman for awhile, but then she'll settle down a bit.
Thank you! My beagle was an absolute madlad for the longest time. Once his anxiety got better, he calmed down a lot. He's calmed down even more since I got the puppy. She wears him out so much lol.
Our boy was a total mutt who pretended to be really chill when we went to adopt him. He was chill for the first day and half at home too. But then he decided he'd fooled us enough and turned on his full crazy. He was completely untrainable for the first two years of his life, unless he was exhausted. So I'd go play catch with him using a ball launcher for an hour, then go home and work on stuff like sit and stay. He ended up being the most awesome dog ever once he got a little older. He pretty much understood plain English, and was very expressive and communicative. He was totally content with laying around and cuddling, but as soon as you said "let's go", it was like a switch, instant unlimited energy. He passed away a few months ago, but he lived a wonderful life, full of love and adventure.
I’m somewhat surprised that no one has given you this answer yet, but it is the most effective one I know, from raising tens of dogs: Your dog needs more exercise; take her for a run or walk when she starts being stubborn. A well exercised dog is a compliant dog that learns and obeys.
She and the beagle get lots of outsider time on their tie outs and play with each other super hard like 3 times a day. I can't really take them on walks in the park because they've been picking up parasites and I'm struggling to get that under control. I'm not comfortable taking them to places other dogs have been until their issues have been handled. My beagle also just got diagnosed with active Lyme disease, so we are dealing with that now. :/
Reward her with head pats and play if that’s what she’s into. Use classical conditioning to associate certain words with those rewards.
As for how to stimulate her, play with her. Wrestle and run around with her.
How many kilometers (or else measured in time) do you walk together every day?
We don't currently go on walks due to parasites, but she and my beagle play outside for at least 2 hours a night and inside for at least another 2. She's not getting mileage, but does laps around the house and the yard and wrestles with the beqgle
She needs the mileage. Really truly needs it. Take her somewhere walking where there aren’t other dogs as soon as your vet clears it. If your vet has cleared it already your own worry is not worth depriving her of this
My vet said that after her next dose of medicine, she should be good to go. She gets that in a few days. I'll definitely take her somewhere nice to walk.
To help stimulate our dog when she was older, I got a kiddie pool and a several packs of plastic balls, like for a kid's ball pit. Than hid treats in the pit for her to search. She loved it and it would keep her entertained even after all the snacks were found.
That's an amazing idea omg.
The thing that saved my sanity when my hyper pit bull was that age was a laser pointer. Id stand in the backyard in the evening and he would chase it for like 60 minutes or more until he couldnt move his body.
Oh that's a good idea!
I would not recommend using a laser pointer with dogs, it can end up being a form of anxiety for dogs.
Here is one, of many, articles that talks about laser pointers being bad for dogs. https://tinyurl.com/3d6xv7ha
Oh shit. Thanks for the heads up.
You can also get automatic ball-throwers that they can learn to load themselves. She sounds bright enough to learn how to use one. But it depends how much she needs you to be present for playtime. And how much she likes chasing a ball, of course.
If she likes being outside, and can't get up to too much mischief there, you could consider a dog flap. Not cheap if you also need it to be secure against burglars. But if she can take herself outside for the kind of mischief that gets her praise and attention, it might help.
I plan on getting one of those ball thrower things once my yard is fenced in. I don't want a dog flap because I am afraid the gang of raccoons that lives nearby will get into my house. The fuckers already jumped me once on my porch. I don't want them getting inside lol.
Teach them to play tug. Here is an excellent video showing how. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q2Ln7fMUVE8 I use a toy that’s a soft rubber ball with a rope tied through it. (Sorry can’t find where to get it a trainer gave it to me). Learning this game also becomes a training tool, getting the toy becomes a huge reward.