i was talking about having a dick vs not, specifically because of having to deal with a boner during the day...

Actually this is really good place to share the knowledge I'm too embarrassed to share irl!!

I'm trans (MTF) and it doesn't really happen randomly the same way it did before hormones. The only time I get an erection is when I try to, and even then sometimes it's difficult 🥲.

You are essentially required* to masturbate 1 or 2 times a week or else the tissue will disintegrate due to not being used, 'morning wood' is what the body does naturally to stop this but on Estrogen it doesn't happen. Some choose to apply testosterone gel to help in this, but it hasn't been an issue for me.

Also with decreased labido it's really easy to forget about it and apparently hurts when you do it again which I'm kinda scared of tbh.

*'required' is subjective, but it's not really reversible and also a working penis is ideal for getting bottom surgery and most people want to have good chances for bottom surgery ...also sex too lol

It’s very much like height, where it’s correlated, but not restricted to people with lots of testosterone (more relevant than having a dick). And it really sucks being Trijntje Keever.

There are a few clarifications I would like to make:

Having an erection does not require the person to have sex, and is not the same as being horny or desiring sex.

Having a penis does not guarantee you have erections (let alone involuntary erections, which is what you seem to be talking about). People with penises who are testosterone dominant do have involuntary erections, but even so, see my first point for why that's not relevant.

Your claim was about being horny being a bigger problem for people with penises, which is a fair assumption but has more to do with testosterone than the penis (like you've pointed out, trans men can be very horny without a "penis" - though it should be noted here that male and female genitalia are more similar than dissimilar and have the same structures of a phallus and glans, just in different configurations).

so it’s already suggesting that it’s not a myth.

The myth is the belief that men are horny while women are not, the reality is that it varies significantly by person. with significant overlap between the sexes. There is a difference on average, but it's not as large or total as people commonly believe.

And finally, as you have pointed out the social context will skew the data significantly with fewer women being comfortable with sex than men, fewer women having learned to masturbate than men, and fewer women willing to discuss or disclose their sexual feelings or behavior than men. These differences in how sex is treated socially means whatever biological differences there are is muddled, especially when what was measured was self-reporting on frequency of masturbation. It's possible that men and women are far more similar than dissimilar than even the current evidence we have points to.

I've recently had to start hormone replacement. Apparently my T levels were so low I was getting clinically depressed. So I went from half the minimum testosterone levels to slightly above the maximum. Now, I've always had a weirdly high libido, and I was afraid I'd have to turn into a recluse. In fact, the opposite happened. I had barely any libido left. I'd jerk off just to test if things even worked, and everything was fine, but it was like I was in constant post-nut clarity. I hated it. I didn't feel myself anymore, and having focus and clarity while all this shit is happening in the world... Like, the hormones did help with the depression a little bit, but it was offset by the otherness I am feeling.

Anyway, this rambling is my way to relate, in a way. You went through puberty of sorts, and I'm going through a reverse one. I am having to get to know myself again, unsure as to what is happening to my body, and dealing with the occasional zit.

BTW, Instead of injecting T, the doctor attempted (successfully!) to kickstart my internal production with a drug that stimulates FSH production, which, in XY equipped hardware, boosts testosterone production. AMAB bodies normally deal with excess T by converting it to estrogen. To avoid that, another drug that blocked it was added. I found it curious how the same messengers are used by both sexes, sometimes with the same outcome, sometimes with completely different outcomes.

That’s one of the reasons I’m worried about transitioning. I’m already horny more frequently and intensely than any dude I’ve ever dated. Adding more testosterone to the mix sounds like a bad idea

Coukd that just be, like, feeling comfier with your body and general brain soup?