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... And at worst, actively making your bedroom less functional and more cumbersome to use. The arguments I hear in favor of it are completely asinine and I will address them one by one.

  1. It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.

I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn't imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.

  1. It doesn't take much time, so you might as well do it.

I find any task not worth my time to be a waste, so unless it has a purpose, it is actively infuriating to do.

  1. It looks nice. And an unmade bed looks lazy

Given that this is an entirely subjective reason, I can't exactly "disagree" with it. But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I'm not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.

Not to mention that if you want to nap or even sit on the end of the bed, you have to make it again. It is an incredibly unstable artwork, making me avoid using my bed unless I really need to.

If you make your bed, I have no judgment for you. Just like people who fold designs into the ends of their toilet paper. I couldn't imagine caring about something like that, but it literally doesn't affect me at all, so go nuts.

But I think we should be honest and call it what it is: some kind of shameful cleaning ritual that is probably some vestigial military chore, and I want nothing to do with it.

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[–] nanook@friendica.eskimo.com 0 points 12 hours ago

@srasmus Live a lazy life, get lazy rewards.

[–] ProjektSpartan@lemmy.world 87 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I have 2 dogs, and I’d prefer their shed hair ON the bed, rather than IN the bed.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemmy.zip 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is something that's recently been changing my tune towards making my bed. And it's not just hair, but dirt and schmutz they drag in from outside.

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[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

THANK you. My cat was adorable, but inhaling her fur while trying to get to sleep was difficult...

[–] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

......I don't understand. How do you not inhale her fur when she places her butthole right on your lips as you fall asleep?

....what? Is my cat the ONLY one who does this???

[–] halcyoncmdr@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

I honestly feel like this is some sort of genetic thing. Even kittens, who have never had a chance to be taught this, somehow know exactly when the most inopportune time is and seem to focus on getting it just right.

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[–] masterspace@lemmy.ca 56 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (9 children)

Fatal counter point to all your arguments:

It feels better when you do.

Literally none of your logical arguments matter one iota because the human brain does not care how much you logic an argument. It feels nicer and more comforting climbing into a made bed then an unmade one.

Also, lying on wrinkly sheets is inherently uncomfortable.

Counter-counterpoint: It "feeling better" is a subjective opinion. To me, it just sucks, and then it's done, and then it sucks to get back into the bed when you're ready to sleep.

[–] Shiggles@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago

Your “fatal counter point” is that you like it, and surely every single human brain feels the exact same way?

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[–] Revan343@lemmy.ca 2 points 19 hours ago

It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.

More comfortable for the cat. She doesn't like it when it's a mess

[–] figjam@midwest.social 33 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I have cats, if I don't pull up the covers then I get to sleep with tiny grains of cat litter.

[–] PigsInClover@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Highly recommend switching to pine litter and a sifting litter box for this reason. You can get a 40lb bag of pine litter at Tractor Supply and other similar stores for less than $10.

This video is a great breakdown

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One of many great reasons to not have cats. Yes I know I will be downvoted to hell by fools who love little brainless predators.

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[–] biofaust@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

It is also actually not healthy to make it right after you slept in it.

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[–] Deflated0ne@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago

Most of our daily routines are.

[–] Zier@fedia.io 17 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Making your bed, is not the same chore for everyone. Some people have many layers and pillows on a fully accessorized sleeping platform. Yes it would be a chore to do that daily (personal opinion). And some people have a duvet, in a duvet cover on a mattress with a fitted sheet on it. Very easy to just shake that duvet over the bed and move on. 30 seconds and done. For some people, making the bed means folding up the duvet and leaving it across the foot of the bed so the mattress can air out all day. And then there is this interesting setup from Germany not all Germans do this.

However, I think the real subject here is... it's no one else's business what happens in your bedroom. Paint it plaid, sleep on a pile of plushies, have orgies, do your taxes in a corner chair, hang all your underwear on pants hangers from a rod suspended from the ceiling. Whatever. Your bedroom, your privacy.

If you're having orgies it's at least a few other people's business.

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[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.

[–] Talaraine@fedia.io 27 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I think y'all have a fundamental misunderstanding of why beds were 'made' in the first place. Tight sheets prevent vermin from slipping between the sheets and waiting until you climb in to experience nightmare fuel. It's a great thing that this doesn't happen often in our first world experience.. but let things slip a little and this becomes a necessity, not a weird habit.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemmy.zip 21 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm with ya, but if you have critters roaming around inside, you have bigger issues to address, like the critters roaming around inside.

[–] crank0271@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

Some of those critters are domesticated (as you mentioned before)

[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I make my bed for the discipline. I force myself to do something I don't want to do. It helps with overall being less lazy and having more willpower in a sense.

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[–] Pirky@lemmy.world 23 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Another reason: I tend to perspire in my sleep. And if I were to make my bed in the morning and cover up the sweaty sheets, that's a recipe for a real bad time when I go back to bed.
Gross as it may be, that's the life of a sweaty sleeper.

[–] Almonds@mander.xyz 8 points 1 day ago

My grandparents had this wonderful antique sleigh-style bed frame in their guest room. It had a couple horizontal rods on the foot side that was perfect for hanging the comforter and a quilt on to air out. Had totally forgotten about that until your comment, now I kinda want to get one lol

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 day ago (5 children)

I'm on the fence about the popularity of this opinion, so I'll upvote after I respond.

But you missed out in your data gathering. There are other reasons to make a bed, if not daily, at least regularly.

First, my bonafides. Twenty years as a nurse's assistant. That meant making beds and taking care of the people in them was my responsibility.

As such, I not only had to wonder if it was more than just an optics thing, but make sure that if it wasn't, I was following best practices. See, if there were reasons to do it beyond those you listed, it would shift priorities, as well as maybe changing when and how I did the job.

Comfort is only part of it, though it isz a factor when a person can't shift their own linens.

See, those folds of fabric can, and do, apply pressure to skin differently than flat sections. So remaking a patient's bed becomes a necessity. Matter of fact, it becomes necessary to check their linens while performing care, though that's tangential.

Secondary to that is dislodging anything on the sheets. This includes, but is not limited to, particles of dirt, dead skin, lint, items dropped previous to the bed check, and more. That's the factor that matters most for people that can make their own beds. You don't really realize how much stuff is on the sheets just from one night of use unless you make beds regularly.

There's a sub-reason to that as well. Evaluation. While a lot of people do change sheets on a schedule, often timed with laundry day or days, there may be need to change sheets in between times. No way to be aware of that necessity if it's from an unknown cause unless you check the sheets. And there's no better way to check them than the process of making a bed. Smoothing things out allows to to both visually and tactilely examine the condition of the sheets.

Now, I can almost guarantee someone reading this is thinking "but I don't do anything nasty in my sheets". Yes, you do. Promise. Everyone does, they just don't know it. Even climbing in fresh out of the shower and not moving after, you're leaving stuff behind when you climb out again. May take longer to build up, but it's there.

All those little bits you leave behind are food. Food for something. Mites, bacteria, fungi, whatever. So no matter how clean you are, making your bed at least decreases what's left behind.

Making a bed properly does take time. Not a whole lot, and practice makes it faster, but it's more than just throwing the top sheets back in place.

So, I would encourage folks to take the time to at least smooth their sheets out a little before they climb in, if nothing else.

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[–] wiase@discuss.online 6 points 1 day ago

This opinion is actuaöly very popular with me.

[–] mrcleanup@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I had one of those sleep number mattresses once, they have inflatable air bags inside so they zip open and you can get at all the layers of foam too. If you saw how much moisture gets trapped in there you'd do like I do and turn your covers down for the day so everything can dry and air out.

Making your bed all nice and tight just traps a whole lot of moisture.

[–] limer@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I make the bed to prevent bugs and spiders from crawling into the sheets

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[–] hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 3 points 1 day ago

I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.

[–] AnimalsDream@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 day ago

Generally I agree, and am so deep in the habit of not making my bed that it's never a thought in my mind. That said, if you or someone you might be sharing the room with is experiencing any kind of hard emotional state and feeling overstimulated, then making the bed as well as other general cleanup can make the space less noisy. In that context it can be therapeutic.

[–] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I sleep in a hammock and so "making my bed" is just "shove all the blankets into hammock so they're off the floor. I'll have to rearrange them over myself when I go to bed, anyway.

Back when I slept in a bed I never made it, either, unless I was expecting company. If they were sleeping over I'd pull out fresh sheets. If we were just hanging out in my room, I'd pull the comforter flat.

Oh, and I never got the hang of flat sheets. I kick them off in the night, unless they're my only blanket.

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[–] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

This take doesn't belong in Unpopular Opinions.

[–] Beacon@fedia.io 7 points 1 day ago

Judging by the number of opposing comments and their upvote count, you're wrong

[–] Mesophar@pawb.social 8 points 1 day ago

And here I came specifically to comment "now this is an actual unpopular opinion!"

[–] CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social 7 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I feel the same way about folding laundry. The clothes are still clean after going through the wash regardless of if theyre folded up in a specific way afterwards.

[–] SkyNTP@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 day ago

Folding (or hanging) laundry is about preventing/managing creases. It's also easier to find clothing items (or anything really) when there is order in it.

A (made) bed is a great large flat surface to do this on.

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[–] Drusas@fedia.io 8 points 1 day ago

It is actually generally better to not make your bed, particularly if you have asthma or allergies. Making the bed creates a warm, humid environment in which dust mites and bacteria better thrive.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I sleep by myself (well, with my dog, but she doesn’t ruffle the sheets). For me, making my bed is as much as flipping the bed sheets back once I get out of bed. It takes all of one second when I get out of bed; and yes, it looks nicer.

But, no judgement, so you do you.

Ps. It’s only a big deal if you make it a big deal. 😊

[–] W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago

I like to be able to sit or lie on my bed after a long day without it being lumpy.

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