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If an instance isn't defederated with another instance, it can talk to it.

You can see which instances an instance defederates with yourself. For lemmy instances, it's at /instances. Just check each end.

So, for example, I'm on lemmy.today. http://lemmy.today/instances doesn't have lemmygrad.ml in its Blocked Instances list (it doesn't defederate from anything, as a matter of policy, in fact).

https://lemmygrad.ml/instances doesn't have lemmy.today in its Blocked Instance, so it isn't defederated on their end either.

Ergo, they can communicate.

Pretty easy to check a pair of Lemmy instances for that.

All that being said, though, if you want to create a series of throwaway accounts to argue with them without them banning you, I think that both you and they are going to be happier if you two stay away from each other. It's just not worth your time, and I think that the chances of there being a productive outcome for you or them isn't very high.

My instance federates with everyone and is very stable. The owner has posted many times that its not the job of the instance owner to control opinions, which I heavily agree with.

Obvious trolls gets kicked out but generally people are encouraged to have opinions and discussions. I think its a great instance.

There is a signup but that was only added because spammers made it necessary, not because the owner wanted it.

mbin its pretty great.

https://fedia.io/

Sorry, comrade. One doesn't simply attend a Comintern meeting without approval.

You must fill out the application and wait to be accepted, that is, if you even qualify.

In Soviet Russia, you do not chose the party, the party choses you!

~/s~

I feel like they've probably all got pros and cons and probably require a little research. I recently signed up here on lemm.ee and the sign up process seemed pretty quick and simple. And they seem to do minimal de-federating. But the flip side to that is you can't upload any images for your first 4 weeks on the server. 4 fkn weeks.

And if I'd read that first, I might have reconsidered joining here. I think I'd rather be inconvenienced by sightly more in depth questions and a 1 day wait time for signing up than a 4 fkn week wait before I can even upload a profile pic and banner image.

Edit: in fact I'm gonna go as far as saying that it's false advertising. They advertise as general purpose instance but seemingly can't even handle a thing that about 50% if this type of social media entails. They should change their blurb on join-lemmy to "We would like to be a general purpose reddit-like instance but our servers catch on fire every time someone uploads a meme, so we should actually be doing something smaller scale instead of pretending that we can hang with lemmy.world".

Maybe commenting will help me...