Ask Lemmy

Love yourself and be content in being alone, get to know the real you. When you do that, you will find the right people. It will be instinctual.

For me WebFishing. Some time ago I played VRchat.

Discord is also good but lack of 3d avatars just doesn't provide the feeling of socialisation.

Hey people have dated and married over gaming chats before. I knew someone in college he met his then about to engage fiance. I lost contact after graduation though

play an MMO game. plenty of ways to break into friend groups there.

I meet tons of people on Discord.

Check out https://slowly.app/ - its a penpall service that simulates snail mail which makes for great connections! You can get a random pall or choose one explicitly and the community there is really wholesome.

Seriously though the only places I've seen any kind of thriving community are invite-only private torrent tracker sites.

I posted on lemmy if anyone wanted to play games with me. Someone answered and we talk everyday since then, on most days we spend hours on video calls. Just try posting on whatever you use, you might find people you like.

Play on small game servers at the same time every day. Eventually youll start seeing the regulars and then its just a matter or trying to break into the friend group.

Outside of that you could try discord but its like wading through a sea of shit. If youre over 25 it will be very hard to find a group that doesnt eventually end up filled with kids or everyone has gotten on with their lives.

You really want online? I guess playing games, discord, vrchat.

My suggestion, do stuff IRL

Whatever you do, steer clear of meetup.com - all of their social activities on there now are scientologists thinly veiling their seminars as get-togethers.

Videogames.

I want a serious answer, how should I find people online to talk to about anything really other than politics?

You don't.

You don't find people online (or IRL) waiting for strangers to start a discussion on some random topic you feel like talking about. Because people, unlike trolls, are busy with their live.

What you can find is people willing to discuss with someone they find interesting or, with any luck, intriguing on whatever topic you both are interested in.

So, what are you interested in? Have you any hobbies, interests, passions? Find small communities around those topics you're interested in, and start posting. Do the work to show you're there and that, maybe, you're worth discussing with.

Meeting people is much possible in the real world.

A couple years ago I had my discord nametag as my Mario Kart Wii nickname, zheg#someNumbers, random people added me and then talked with them while playing. Those were good ol' days.

I don't have an answer about online methods... I went through the phase of how to meet people as well, and eventually decided to join / try out some group activities. I did some rookie dragon boating, table tennis, stand up paddle, and eventually met my forever spouse as she taught me scuba diving. PS: other than the scuba diving, those were all free activities for beginners. Good luck

I hear Lemmy is pretty good as a sort of forum, maybe you've heard of it?

But more seriously, I've found that social media platforms (even the fediverse ones) tend to limit connections to surface-level. I personally wouldn't rely on them to find people to talk to. But if you're looking for communities who share similar interests, it's very good at that. If you're looking for individuals, the next best thing is sliding into someone's DMs to have a more focused one-on-one conversation. I'd recommend against doing that without some other interaction first (it looks scammy).

In case you want to chat, my DMs are open.

thinked

You don’ thunk hard

VRChat is an option. Takes effort to make your way to the cool people tho.