Ask Lemmy

I got fixed a couple months ago. Best decision ever.

For nearly 40 years, I've been told the horrors of climate change. For nearly 40 years, I've watched climate change unravel. And now at nearly 40 years on this planet, I've reached a point where I am more concerned about immediate human activity affecting my life rather than the breakdown and collapse of our planet's environment.

At no point in my life has there ever been a desire to bring a new life into this horrifying existence.

Now if only those weird and miserable old men would stop calling me selfish for not having children. Their obsession with my genitals makes me uncomfortable.

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Well, I hope we both make it.

hear, hear!

I completely understand that kind of decision. Unfortunately its only gonna make it worse. If the people potentially making a positive impact on the world stop having children the downward spiral accelerates.

Even bolder to assume those fictional children would even want children.

I think there's enough trauma already to go around.

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The fascists have no qualms with having kids and raising them to be little fascists, too. I had kids because I wanted to love and care for people as I help them develop into capable and caring people, but I'm also glad that at least 2 of the members of the generation who will be running this planet when I'm old won't have been raised by fascists.

I think this whole line of reasoning that it's immoral or cruel to have children at all is just plain dumb and utterly nonsensical. Yes, there's a lot of fucked up shit in the world. But, other than climate change, this is far from the worst the world has ever been. Brining people into the world now is not particularly worse for them than, say, having kids in Medieval Europe where there was a decent chance they'd die as an infant or get the plague, but the best case you could hope for was to give them the life of a subsistence dirt farmer. Or ancient Mesopotamia, where, again, odds are they'd die in childhood, but they couldn't expect better than barely surviving on the edge of starvation. Etc, etc, etc.

Yet through all that people managed to find ways to improve their conditions and that of those around them. People fought and built better lives and a better world. Fuck anyone who tells me I should just give up and just resign that the world now and forever belongs to the fascists and capitalists.

Having kids is not cruel. Despite the darkness, there's still a hell of a lot of happiness to be had in this world. I look at the expressions of pure joy on my kids' faces as they explore the forest near our house, or when I get home from work, or when they make cookies for their mom, etc. And you're telling me giving them that joy is cruel? How detached from reality do you have to be to believe that?