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[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 103 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (4 children)

Humans are rationalizing creatures, much more than rational ones. Our first gut reaction is trying to make sense of why we think what we think and why we behave how we behave, rather than trying to figure out if it does actually make sense. If this natural tendency could be changed, the world would be far less of a shithole.

[–] Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 40 points 10 months ago (3 children)

This is why, rather than slapping people in the face with a mountain of research, I try to ask them questions that lead them to the conclusion I want them to reach. Oh we discuss along the way, but you get a lot less of the black and white thinking bold statements that someone entrenched in their beliefs tends to make

[–] mipadaitu@lemmy.world 34 points 10 months ago (1 children)

The research backs up your statement. Especially if you yourself are genuinely interested in the conversation, and also willing to update your own thinking, along with helping get everyone in the conversation to start understanding the real answers.

In case you haven't listened to it, the You Are Not So Smart podcast covers the topic of how to get people to change on a pretty regular basis. It's a great podcast that talks a lot about conspiracies, misinformation, and how to combat them.

https://youarenotsosmart.com/podcast/

My favorite part of this podcast is that if you listen to it from the start (nearly 300 episodes at this point), you can hear him slowly become very jaded and pessimistic, but then as the podcast goes on, he starts turning around his opinion and gets exited and optimistic about all the progress that is made. It's a really great podcast and makes me excited for the future.

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[–] rwhitisissle@lemmy.ml 9 points 10 months ago (5 children)

This is just the Socratic method. It's like...the oldest formal rhetorical strategy.

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[–] undercrust@lemmy.ca 8 points 10 months ago

Ahh, after all this time, the Socratic Method still reigns

[–] rwhitisissle@lemmy.ml 20 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

We're also to some extent innately combative creatures. People will say "Oh, I showed people the facts and they still didn't change their mind. They're just idiots stuck in their ways." Okay, cool. When you tried to present these facts, did you do it in such a way as to treat them courteously or as an equal, or did you do it in such a way that you got to feel like you were dunking on them rhetorically? Because it's not as simple as presenting someone with facts. It's doing so in a way that doesn't make it feel like you're trying to establish some kind of superiority over them. Because then they're not presenting facts to you, they're just attacking you and your position. And these are very different things, conceptually and emotionally.

[–] doublejay1999@lemmy.world 10 points 10 months ago (2 children)
[–] denshirenji@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago (4 children)
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[–] Leviathan@lemmy.world 86 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I try real hard to not only change my mind but vocally (typographically) acknowledge when I was wrong because it's so goddamnit rare and infuriating.

[–] aStonedSanta@lemm.ee 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Same here. I work in tech and you’d be amazed how many people are so much less on guard around me because of this.

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[–] shneancy@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

same here, even when someone hasn't changed my mind 100% I'll often acknowledge if any of their arguments made me want to delve deeper into a topic and think more about my opinion on it

[–] dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 43 points 10 months ago

This is like a 21st century Monty Python skit.

[–] limitedduck@awful.systems 41 points 10 months ago (9 children)

These comments are quite devoid of meme energy

[–] Rooter@lemmy.world 6 points 10 months ago

Where's your pieces of flair? I mean, meme energy?

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[–] SpiceDealer@lemmy.world 36 points 10 months ago (22 children)

If there's one I've learned after being on the internet for 17 years, it's this; you can throw an entire mountain of evidence at a conspiracy theorist and they STILL won't believe you.

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[–] abbenm@lemmy.ml 31 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Pretty sure this meme originates from an actual, specific Twitter exchange. Which became so legendary that people just repeated it secondhand, and now the secondhand repetition of it is getting screenshotted and posted.

[–] Akasazh@feddit.nl 18 points 10 months ago

To me or sounds like Monty Python: 'You don't have to follow me, your all individuals, you have mine of your own!'

(Crowd): YES, WE'RE ALL INDIVDUALS, WE HAVE MINDS OF OUR OWN!

(One person in the crowd): No, wait, I'm not!

[–] Black616Angel@feddit.de 21 points 10 months ago (2 children)

Where are the links to the studies?

[–] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 17 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I think there is a difference between being exposed to evidence of the contrary and sitting on it for a while. I don't think you can change someone's mind in a conversation. Rarely so. But if the person is "forced" to think about the topic and the evidence, eventually they will change their mind.

[–] Donkter@lemmy.world 19 points 10 months ago

I think that studies show that while facts can help, most significant changes of mind happen when a person is emotionally invested in the change.

[–] 30p87@feddit.de 17 points 10 months ago

Well I don't think that's true

[–] stratosfear@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 10 months ago

It is morally as bad not to care whether a thing is true or not, so long as it makes you feel good, as it is not to care how you got your money as long as you have got it. - Edmund Way Teale

[–] puppy@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago

Hahah. If the commentor just went "you're right, I just changed my mind". That itself would make the OP some pause 😂

[–] Holzkohlen@feddit.de 13 points 10 months ago

This is like a meta level recursion.

[–] Zoots@lemmy.world 13 points 10 months ago (15 children)

Sounds like you were dealing with a troll

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[–] Yondoza@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 months ago

Damn, everyone could have been right if the OG just relented. He changed his mind to agree people don't change their minds? Chess grandmaster move right there... What a missed opportunity.

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 11 points 10 months ago

I mean, you can change people's minds on the internet, they just have to be willing to change; and that part can't be controlled by you.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 8 points 10 months ago

An oft-repeated phrase between my friends an I in high school was when a dumb redneck kid told a friend of mine in class, "my opinions is facts."

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