Asklemmy

Solves being poor 100% of the time!

And if you're uncertain about the exact numbers always overestimate costs and underestimate income.

I've started to have such a massive problem around this one lately. I'm a good, maybe even great listener, and when I'm with another good listener, some real nice and deep conversations emerge, which I really treasure.
The problem is that the amount of other good listeners around me has shrunk to nearly no one, and I feel myself completely squeezed out of every conversation I engage in. Even a one-on-one dialogue can turn into a monologue where I'm not able to fit in more than a syllable here and there.

It's really deteriorating my self esteem and level of happiness. Really feels like not even my closest friends and family give a shit about any part of my life or my person.

I have a lot of trouble with this, I guess issues with egocentrism. For me, listening is trying to understand their perspective, and picturing how I would see things from where they are standing very often wraps around to finding an experience that I've had, or things that I understand, that are analogous. Those things help me get a better grip on what this person is saying. I haven't really found a way around this, when I really try to not inject my own anecdotes I end up not really contributing much substance and often not following as well, and I feel like a much worse listener because of that.

As I've grown older I've realized that I've always had some trouble with auditory processing in general, so interjecting is a way I can slow down the conversation before I get lost and make sure I'm still on track.

As a person who manages people, I cannot fight for your raise if YOU don't fight for your raise.

I cannot tell you how many times where something like this happens. I tell my higher ups, "Sarah should get promoted and increase her salary" and then my bosses go up to Sarah and she responds all limpdick like, "I like my job and I'm happy."

God damn it Sarah! Flex a little. Talk about how you see a opening you want. Stop being a keyboard warrior on Work Reform and actually SAY IT OUT LOUD. Share your wins! Brag about your value to the company. Demand your worth to MY BOSSES TOO.

It's not a single person who makes these decisions. It's multiple people.

Nobody is going to hand you shit if you're timid about it.

I have one personal email (posteo, 1 euro per month) that I use for personal correspondences, and one shitty personal email I signed up for in high school that I use for anything where there's any chance it might make it to some corporate mailing list. I have the posteo address set up alongside work email to notify me when new mails come in, and the junk address I'll login through firefox like every few days (unless I'm expecting something specific) to skim and mark the most recent mail as read so I know where to start skimming next time.

For work, anything I actually need to deal with I'll mark as unread until I get around to it, because it's annoying seeing the icon show I have unread messages. Sometimes "getting around to it" does just mean putting it in a calendar or some other way of making sure I don't lose track.

Unsubscribe is your friend.

FOMO is a marketing strategy.

We want to stay in your inbox so we can temp you on big marketing days.

Alternatively, don't spend any time out effort on that, except flagging/deleting spam, and take advantage of search functionality to immediately find anything you need later on.

Agreed on the calendar use though.

On the discount thing...my dad tried it once. "I'd like to cancel my subscription, too expensive.", my dad said. The guy told him to hold a second and then came with the date the cable guy come to take it all out. It wasn't Internet, though

Hey, similar to me! I was a veterinarian receptionist for years, then went back to school and got my associates in cad and now I'm a substation designer.

Very true, more people should follow their dreams.

I know a guy who was kind of forced into an IT university. His parents thought it would be a good fit, as he likes computers and videogames.

He one day decided to quit and took some time off and started working in some fancy hotel kitchen as a temp job, while spending some time away from the family. Fast forward a couple years, he is now in culinary school and wants to become a chef. Needless to say he is happier and visibly has a better mental health as before.

I found this out when i had cancer and taking care of the kids. No time for making extra time for tasks; so combining was a necessity. waking up, bring the laundry basket down the hall to the kitchen, make breakfast for kids, when going to the garage to take the kids to school bring basket on the way to laundry room. Getting home toss laundry in. when heading out to pick kids up switch them to the dryer. come back bring basket off dried stuff back in to room. Other stuff like fold towels while sitting on toilet.

I like the sound of that, but is it based in science?

Magnesium Glycinate is the best before sleep!