Asklemmy

Focusing on the things I need to actually do.
I swear, if even if I was forced to do something at gunpoint, I'd manage to get distracted anyway.

I literally wish I had the ability to practice.

That's really what all my other answers to this come down to. I would love to write better, be a better woodworker, play music, learn languages, learn programming languages, etc. But my mind just... slides right off it. I can't bring myself to put in the time necessary to cultivate literally any skill.

I wish I could speak a lot of languages fluently.

See a lot of comments here about creative skills like drawing or singing, and I feel a little bit privileged having skill in both and more besides, on the creative side.

But I can’t really feel good about it, because I have serious problems with math and strict, rule-based stuff.

I really wish I was more logical and structured. I also lack a lot in the department of executive function, being so chaotic and creative. I am really bad at most everything that would actually get me a decent wage. The creative skills are worth nothing (in the sense of getting paid) if you can’t manage to stick to deadlines or sell yourself as an employee or a freelancer, and I keep getting into deep trouble due to miscalculating and misestimating my budgets, timespans, conceptualizing bigger picture when I am thrown into doing small picture stuff, or seeing the small pictures when I’m working with the big picture.

But it’s pretty interesting and fun seeing these different kind of responses. I guess there’s a little bit of a zero sum game here; if one’s good at something, almost always they’re bad on something else. Seems obvious, but somehow I’ve never thought about that.

Go lay down and fall asleep within a few minutes no matter what. I know a few people who can do this and I am so jealous.

I wish I was better at debate. My wife always comes out ahead in arguments. Maybe it's because she had a debate class in high school and I never did. I always stumble over my arguments and they are easy to pick apart. Not that I would use that skill against her. I'd still probably let her win, haha. But it would just be a nice skill to have in life.

Motivate myself.

It's weird. I go to work, I'll get the job done. Something comes in my inbox that shit is covered.

I've been home for 3 hours now, and this is the most I've done tonight since I got home. Not even video games. Fuck haven't gotten chores done. What the hell is that skill that I have at work that I don't have at home?

Music. Probably singing and acoustic guitar. I really like singing, even if I'm really bad at it, and I like getting lost in music. Yes I can listen to some music, but I feel like doing it yourself gives it something more. Someday I'll get classes haha, I need more hours in my day

Programming. I understand it as a concept, but have no ability to sit down and write code.

Musical talent. I'd love to be able to sing and play guitar but I have no aptitude for it at all.

I wish I was a better piano player

I'm a competent musician in many instruments but I could never get the hang of using my left hand for accompaniment

Turn off my ADHD for a moment / focus on something cognitively induced and not "I NEED DOPAMIIINE"

I wish I could write better...

Bad handwriting literally runs in my family, and as hard as I've tried I've never been able to improve it. I've resorted to writing in block, and even then it still looks scruffy.

Yet some of my colleagues have wonderful handwriting, and it makes me wonder why I couldn't have been born with better hands.

I'm going to start trying to learn how to draw in the New Year, so I hope that helps in some way.

Learning to say no. Many times or not to say all my life I have always tried to get along with everyone, and I always say "Yes" to everything, committing myself to things I really don't want just because I don't know how to say no.

I wish I could just decide to sleep. I wish I could go "I have to be awake in 10 hours, I will sleep now." Nope. I can go forward but not backward. I've lost count of the number of times I've wrapped around the clock, staying up for 20 hours and sleeping for 10. The abiltiy to go "man I don't need to be up at 1AM, I have shit to do in the morning" and go to bed at 11 and actually sleep. That would be useful.

would be nice if I had more graphical imagination, but I just can't create detailed images in my head. I can either "see" the big picture but with no details, or can focus on some detail, but then loose the big picture.

this way I really can't draw stuff purely from my brain, I need references. and again, I can't really vary from those references.

there's room for practicing, obviously, but I have less and less time (and need, tbh) to develop my drawing skills, so I kinda gave up on it.

I wish I didn't break down so easily. Sometimes I feel like I'm made of wet paper and the smallest mistake sends me spiraling

I wish I could do things carefully. Doesn't matter how hard I try; if I wash up water goes everywhere, even when I'm trying not to let it. I can't do cutting in when it's time to paint a room. I can't move things around without bumping them, usually. Just incapable of doing things carefully.

I wish I could manage my work stress well enough that I could still enjoy doing things when I get home.

aquarium plant growing

every time i buy them they die

Tuning a musical instrument by ear. I have tried to "train" my ear and all that but no dice. I can play well enough but if stuff goes out of tune I have no idea until I check it or someone tells me

Ok. Mini-rant because I can't contain myself atm. Do you wanna know a badly-kept secret? I've been making art on and off for 29 years. My ass wishes I could draw too. A ton of artists wish they could draw.

Talent will only give you a leg up, and mainly just at the beginning. The rest, all of us have to struggle for and I'm quite sure very few of us appreciate having to do so. And no matter how good they get, there is always something they have no idea how to do yet or they have some idol whose style they envy more than their own. Or they're the type that only hates what they make because they're the one who made it.

Van Gogh had a painter friend named Gauguin, and they were both jealous of each other. There is no magical point that one hits where you feel like you're Good Enough. The best you can aim for is the kind of steady improvement you don't even notice happening except on a scale of years, and the confidence to acknowledge those improvements instead of hyper-focusing on every way it isn't what you saw in your head (it never is).

Go get a pencil or your ipad or whatever. Youtube is by far your biggest friend. Go look up videos about how to actually see what's in front of you instead of what your brain insists must logically be there. USE REFERENCE. Trace a photo over and over, then immediately try the same thing freehand -- this one is super useful, because a lot of drawing is also muscle memory. Break things down into simple shapes and then build on those. Use the open space between objects if you need to, to trick yourself into drawing something complex without getting lost in intimidating structural details.

When you've got those down, move onto perspective and composition. Cry a little if you have to, then get back to it. Because now you're able to do whole backgrounds. People? Do tons of deliberately imprecise gesture drawings. Give your OC a terrifying robot head, a pillow for a torso, and springs for limbs. But go get. Your pencil. And be ok with drawing at first like everyone thinks they draw.

Barring that, my second choice is singing.

I have the opposite problem as you, I wish I was more able to verbally express myself without becoming lost in the options during an open conversation, an issue I've always had to deal with.

Focus on reading a book.
I can do it but I have to be in the mood. I wish it were all the time but it's more like once a month. I'm trying to wean myself away from screens and be more mindful about spending more than a few minutes on a task. It's a lifestyle change and a struggle.

Also; spelling, typing, and writing in print and cursive. I always type and write letters out of order.

Ooh I actually had the same thing with drawing!

I spent an hour a day for a month trying to draw just the same character following a tutorial.

I wasn't a master, but the difference between "I look like a child scribbling" and "person who looks like they need more practice" really was just a month it felt like.

Juggling. I want to be able to juggle. Have tried so many times and failed so many times. No good reason, I just really want to be able to do it.

I'm quite willing to draw badly and sing badly, find those enjoyable even without talent. They seem like human things everyone does, and if I practice they get better. But for whatever reason, I am so jealous of those with reflexes that let them snatch balls out of the air, and haven't been able to learn this. When I practice I don't get better and it's frustrating.

I wish I could speak Spanish fluently. Formal, immersion, and independent study got me nowhere. I REALLY want to go to Mexico City to see ruins and it would be helpful if I could carry a conversation.

Woodworking, or any activity that involves crafting useful and/or beautiful things with my own two hands. I live in a flat so I lack space to do it, but the idea of using an object or a furniture everyday while knowing I actually made it from scratch is just so appealing to me

Drawing. So I can get mad money from furries.

Card throwing simply because it's always looked like the coolest fucking thing ever.

I used to work with a guy who could draw. He would absentmindedly create masterpieces with a sharpie and a dirty sheet of cardboard while waiting on a machine to finish. He said the only reason he can do it is because he practiced.

Every cool thing you see someone do, they're only capable of it because they kept trying every day.

My wife can read a a cookbook (or a recipe in general) and instantly contextualize what she's reading. If I could do that, too, there'd be a lot less strain in our marriage.

For that matter, remembering a list of more than three things for more than twenty minutes, that's abother one.