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I keep in touch with 2 here and there - we don't really talk much, but maybe a couple times a year at most. On good terms with both, but just living our own lives.
The other two I haven't said a word to in years. One I've completely cut contact with, along with her entire circle I used to be friends with, once I snapped out of it and realized I'd just been taken advantage of and the whole group was toxic. Shitshow and a half, and also a big part of why I stepped away from a specific game's community that we met through.
The last one I don't like to dwell on too much, because in this case I know I was the abusive asshole - I've grown and changed since then, and there's no point opening old wounds by reaching out. I hope they're doing well these days and have processed and healed from the damage I know I caused.