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But the secret rules are what makes it fun!
Depends on who made the secret rules. If they're my own secret rules that only I need/want to follow, they're obviously great and a lot of fun, but if they're secret rules by others and they expect you to know them, then those are the kind of secret rules that suck.
I see what you're saying but I have to disagree. Figuring out the secret rules behind everything is a interesting puzzle. In fact, once I've mastered the secret rules of a workplace or social group I often rapidly lose interest because it's no longer a challenge. That's why I love my public-facing job, new people to figure out every day.
That's a good point, and I agree that it can be fun to figure them out sometimes. For me, it's the rather strict enforcement of these often arbitrary rules by society in so many importants parts of life that makes me miserable.
Secret rules are interesting and motivational when you're discovering them, and crippling once they become a routine. This post is saying to skip these unnecessary practices and do it the way that suits you.