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[–] jerakor@startrek.website 14 points 1 day ago (29 children)

Genocide is a term that is both over and under used. There are currently about six genocides ongoing. I don't see the point in trying to call someone out on it because no one is actually doing anything for or against it outside of a very small number of people.

If someone asks me if I'm anti genocide I assume they mean something they specifically consider a genocide and they are trying to use this as bait to get me to out myself in some way. They don't actually expect I'm personally participating or countering it in any way.

Trans rights also is a loaded term now because there are a LOT of individual rights Trans people are needing to fight for all in parallel. It's better to be specific.

Sure someone who says they are against trans people is awful, but I find folks set the bar in different places and use that to start an argument. The easiest example is, what age should someone be allowed to transition which is an intensely challenging question to answer even on a medical level.

[–] snooggums@piefed.world 2 points 1 day ago (12 children)

The easiest example is, what age should someone be allowed to transition which is an intensely challenging question to answer even on a medical level.

That actually has a really simple answer, the right age is the one that the person and their doctors/medical professionals consider age appropriate for that individual. It isn't up to society to restrict that decision. That is before the fact that medical professionals with direct experience with the person will have the best opinions on the topic.

This is also true for every single medical decision. Also true for every decision that doesn't directly harm someone else.

[–] jerakor@startrek.website 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (9 children)

I can't imagine thinking any medical procedure has a simple answer, especially anything that permanently alters you.

Medical professionals are people, sometimes they make the right choice, sometimes the wrong choice. There are people who shop for the wrong answer, and also people who get the wrong answer and live in suffering. It is important to question things and have a discourse.

If my 16 year old came to me and asked to have their hearing removed as a solution to their mispohonia and that their therapist agrees and they found a surgeon... I don't think I could just jump on board with that call.

[–] canofcam@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago

If my 16 year old came to me and asked to have their hearing removed as a solution to their mispohonia and that their therapist agrees and they found a surgeon… I don’t think I could just jump on board with that call.

Comparing having your ears removed to transitioning is kind of concerning. This parallel makes it seem like you believe being trans is a disability.

Trans people also do not just one day go and have life-altering surgery. It is a long and arduous process with ups and downs, if you prevented your 16 year old from beginning that process the likelihood is that you will end up with a very resentful and distant adult child in the future.

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