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People whose parents have become fascist, how are you dealing with it? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by pep@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have 2 GOP parents, one that voted Trump originally and one that did not. Over the last 9 years, I have watched them both travel down the MAGA pipeline to become visibly fascist. The parents who taught me racism was wrong and to have empathy for others, have become openly hostile about immigrants, Muslims, and even parrot the Nazi "great replacement" theory.

Part and parcel with this, they refuse to have any discussions about the facts -- like immigrants not stealing and eating people's pets. They won't hear it, they won't even engage in the conversation...they just get angry and loud the second they hear anything that doesn't fit into the Fox News narrative. Can you relate? How are you dealing with it in your relationships with your parents?

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[+] 1984@lemmy.today -6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

You will never be able to change your parents. You are just a kid to them, and they wont take advice from you how to live their life, just like you wouldnt change your own opinions if your kid tells you to do something you dont want.

The wise thing to do is to peacefully coexist and not fall into the trap thinking your parents are your enemy. They are not fascists because they dont like immigrants for gods sake.

Humans gather together with people who are similar to them. All animals also do this. Its difficult to see immigrants coming into your country when you have grown up without any immigrants. This is completely natural and happens in every single country.

With time, new generations like yourself grow up with immigrants around you, and it becomes natural and becomes what you are used to.

[–] gerryflap@feddit.nl 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Strongly disagree here. It might not be possible to change them, but that's never for sure. OP should not let them say hateful shit just to keep the peace, and should instead keep countering it with facts even if it doesn't help. Don't make them feel like hatred should just be accepted. If they stop, maybe stop bringing it up as well.

I'm not from the US, and I've had to counter the dumb Facebook brainrot that got to my parents quite a few times. It's insane to see how gullible they've become, so it is important to keep challenging them. Recently I was hit with some nonsense about the moon landing being faked. Even some simple statements like "we still have those computers and programs, anyone could've checked whether those could viably land something on the moon" and "so many people would've had to remain silent for such a thing to be successful" was enough to counter the nonsense. But I just keep wondering how they keep falling for it. It's important to keep fighting (with words). Any seed of doubt may break their indoctrination, even if it's not immediately

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think it can only lead to a very bad relationship with lots of fighting both ways. Following your advice leads to eternal fighting and no parental relationship at all. Absolutely not worth fighting inside your family for whatever opinions they may have about this.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think it's important to talk (not argue) with them because they are family. Its not a healthy relationships if you are afraid to talk to them. Whats the value in having a relationship like that?

Unless money are inheritance is involved then ill shut up and tell them to take crystals and herbal medicine lol.

[–] 1984@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah of course talk to them. But I dont think its worth fighting inside the family over these things.

Everyone needs to understand that there is a massive psy-ops to damage how we see ourselves, our neighbours, girlfriends, boyfriends, whatever. Everything is about making people fight eachother instead of the common enemy that is pulling the strings in the name of profit and power : big tech algorithms.

Of course parents will fall pray to all of this. The social media algorithms will reinforce what they believe, weather its true or false. It doesnt matter to the tech company what they believe as long as they keep using the site.

My advice is to not let this shit affect your family relationships.