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... What the fuck is this.
ADHD is just like everyone else it's just less. Everything you experience is what is "neuraltypical" just to a stronger degree in some cases less in others. People with ADHD need to stay away from these internet holes. This shit is self feeding bullshit
The 7 stages are:
Doubtful. Have dealt with it enough. And have been around enough to witness all kinds of people with executive function problems to realize it isn't an excuse. It can be more difficult for tasks and behaviors but in no way is it experiencing something that is unique to others without ADHD. These internet self diagnoses chambers are the worst for this fantasy self victimization.
It continually sucks to find these communities hoping there's finally one that could produce meaningful conversation and information. Instead I find a bunch of wound licking people posting excuses based on some malingering fantasy disease.
How far do i need to search to find a post/comment being like "OMG neuro's don't know what its like to lose the car keys. Not like us ADHD'rs"
I dunno if there's anything to "self diagnosis chambers." I can only speak to my experience.
I'm an adult woman with late diagnosed ADHD. I became belligerent when diagnosed 4 years ago and refused to believe it (skipping ahead in the story) and now I hang out in ADHD spaces online because it's always helpful to feel like you're not alone. And because women tend to present with inattentive type, and largely went undiagnosed as children (since our suffering tends to be less disruptive and thus, easy to ignore).
You read like a neurotypical coming into our space like you're welcome and lecturing people who have a learning disability like anybody asked. Buzz off.
Its not a disability. I sound neurotypical because I am I just have ADHD. Neurotypical sounds made up and I bet if a deep dive was completed on how its used it would be just wrong and likely downright offensive to a lot of people.
ADHD is considered a disability (in the US) under the Americans with Disabilities Act. Which is why a person with an ADHD diagnosis is allowed to ask for reasonable accommodations.
The more you know.
Bonus reply; I would know. I work for the Department of Developmental and Intellectual Disabilities caring for disabled adults. Knowing the ADA is actually my bread and butter.
But go off on why it's not a disability.
Its a disability in america in a special category where you have to meet certain conditions like not being gainfully employed for a certain period of time. Being ADHD is not a disability. In other countries like where I live it is also not a disability. ADHD does not prevent you or hinder you from anything.
How about instead of your obvious personal problems with this very real disability that I, and others, suffer from, why don't you provide me with a scientific paper? A peer-reviewed study? Literally anything other than stating your feeling as fact?
I tell ya what. Tell me what country you're in and I'll provide evidence that it's considered a disability there.
In many different scenarios I'd be right there with you, but I think you might be missing the point here.
People who are raised by people who don't struggle as much (and consequently are unable to relate or empathize meaningfully with ND struggles) are likely to grow up thinking they are broken and that they must hide who they are to avoid inconveniencing others. This might seem quaint, but think of it in terms of survival - not politeness.
When you see people commenting things like "omg I thought it was just me" or whatever, it's possible that this is the first time someone has ever felt like they weren't fundamentally alone. Once we get to this point, we can start to feel a bit more confident about learning more and/or seeking help.
And finally... your argument, "it's just less", is really fucking stupid. How is magnitude not relevant? Did you think before you wrote this, or are you just embarrassingly confident by default?
I wanna show this guy that 79-year-old lady's post screaming, "You mean laundry isn't supposed to be agony?"
Jesus. What privileged behavior.
Neurotypical people don't do this.
Every single person on the planet does this
They really don't
I see people say shit like "every person does this" a lot of the time on adhd posts, but then people also wonder why I'm "so weird". Maybe it's because I have a condition that a neuropsychologist diagnosed me with and it's how it affects me? And that I'm actually different and not just "making it up" because it's an invisible disability?
Just because you don't see it doesn't mean it not real. Or because you yourself are not as neurotypical as you might think.
It isn't a disability
It's literally legally defined as a disability in most countries what are you on about
A disability only under strict conditions that almost all of you do not meet
So now you do admit it's a disability, and instead of fucking off, you move the goalposts to how everyone here should verify their medical history for you?
Get bent. Seriously. Nevermind that I just replied to you upthread, I'm done with your ass.