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- Married adults have markedly more sex than their unmarried peers, but the sex recession is also making inroads among married couples.
- When it comes to sexlessness (“no sex in the last year”) among young adults, the biggest change comes post-2010.
- Between 2010 and 2019, the average time young adults spent with friends in a given week fell by nearly 50%, from 12.8 hours to just 6.5 hours.
Source: Institute for Family Studies.
Damn... weekly? During the first couple of years of the relationship, sure.
Eight years later, now it's twice a month: right before and right after her period. Is that not a normal amount?
Depends... Are you both happy with it?
Her: Yes.
Me: No.
I'd prefer 1-2x per week.
Matters may dramatically reverse once she's (nearly) of of menopause and your testosterone takes a nose dive. Be prepared!
Might be worth having a chat. Maybe try some hand stuff or get her to encourage you while you jerk off. Sorry if that's inappropriate.
I've been on both ends of the sex drive imbalance (I'm almost always on the low end) and it's tricky territory. It's best to sidestep trying to figure out who's "normal" and focus on, like the other commenter said, how you can both feel happy, loved, and satisfied.
The answer may lie completely outside of the domain of sex.
I don't think there is a normal, there is an average. But this would not work for me. The only times I've been that disinterested were the years I was breastfeeding (tanked my libido completely) and when my ex got radicalized and started spouting racist twaddle. Outside of those, it's just been defined by how often the guy could, so once a week with my ex and once a day with my husband. I think more sex is a positive good in a sexual, romantic relationship. It's free, it's fun, it feels good.
Are you doing natural family planning and she is afraid of sex closer to ovulation? Then that's sensible. I'd be frustrated though.