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As I said in another reply, there was a way for him to live a happy life in the little time he has on this world (or get his peen wet, whichever it is): Get a divorce. As long as he could do that, which is clearly the case given that he is getting a divorce and his mistress is moving in with him, he had absolutely no excuse to have an affair behind his wife's back. Hence, piece of shit.
He is getting a divorce.
You need to put yourself in both perspectives. It's not so easy to make such a big change in life without being sure first, that's why people tend to already have met other one to love before leaving their current partner .
Anyway, it would not be easier for the leaved part to accept it. Normally the pain tends to come for the fact that someone who you loves, and that you think they love you back, no longer loves you. The temporal fact that their new relationship overlaps a little with the time before leaving you does not ease much the pain.
Because, let's be real, is not like people don't want to be cheated, it's that people, reasonably, don't want their partner to leave them. Cheating is just the realization of this leaving. But you cannot force love on someone, of they don't love you, they just don't.
If a relationship is broken, I don't really see cheating as a cause, more like a symptom.
Ideally people will be more brave and just end things as soon as they feel no love. But that's a little too utopic in my humble opinion. And being so harsh on people who didn't manage to be as brave as to end something to be alone instead of ending things when they have sure they are not going to be alone is not that justified from my point of view.
Yeah it is unfair for the other part who has "lost" time in a failed relationship and could be have been looking for other partners sooner, as their SO is doing. But a failed relationship is usually evident from both sides equally, so at some point is also their own fault for clinging themselves to a death relationship.
Things would change if there's manipulations, abusive behavior or harm is being done on purpose of course. But there's no evidence that it is the case here. In fact the only harm tried to do in purpose here comes from the mother asking the son to break relationships with his father just to make him suffer.
From the context it's clear he's getting divorced by his wife after getting caught.
Okay then meet with the side chick and then get a divorce. He didn't do that; he waited until he was caught. That's the most piece of shit development possible.
The fuck? You do realize that people commonly leave their spouses due to cheating right? As in from their own side divorce/break up after finding out. Clearly cheating as an act, irrespective of the context, is hurtful. If you can't get that simple fact then frankly you need to do less armchair psychology and more talking to people.
Cheating is inherently abusive. It's a betrayal of the consent their partner has given for an exclusive relationship.