Realm of the Elderlings is my favorite series of all time and its written by a woman, but every other book series ive read that ive liked has been written by a man. Not sure how to describe how most books I tried written by woman in the past felt other than the audience not feeling like me. Realm of the elderlings I never had this issue, I enjoyed following the female protoganists and the fool even if I dont identify with how they feel, so I think its not necessarily the main character being a male for half the series being why I like it.
I just typically dont like men written by woman like woman rightfully dont like woman written by most male authors, since it tends to be done poorlly. Looking for series/authors that do a good job of representing both genders and writing for them, not misrepresenting either or acting like its the only thing that defines them and all their actions.
Could you be more specific about which books did not resonate? I read pretty widely and don't usually notice jarring differences. There are only a handful of men who I noticed really couldn't write female characters, most modern authors can. In fantasy & sci-fi at least.
Maybe my issue is avoiding popular books and going for the niche ones, I typically seek out hard magic systems and progression fantasy where it definitely is lacking
Like the lesbian necromancers in space? I can see that. I love the Kushiel books but can tell they're written by a woman.
In sort of alternate history fantasy where I think there is no jarring gender stuff:
I've been reading the Katherine Kerr Deverry books, they are old but I think you might like those. The YA ones starting with The Thief of Attolia, if you haven't read those, is delightful, and doesn't take much time. Robin Hobb, but you already found her, and definitely Naomi Novik as recommended by others. I like most all the Django Wexler books, he's a dude but writes from both men's and women's perspectives seamlessly. Katherine Kerr, Robin Hobb, and Naomi Novik write from the perspective of non-human characters too, that might be something to look for when you are looking for a writer who can change perspectives.