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"you will stop caring what others think about you when you realise how little they do"
Its also an easy way to cut the fat in terms of relationships that are past their shelf life
People in general pay you very little mind, even people who care about you. it's called the spotlight effect.
I only mean that most of the time, the way people make themselves subservient to preserve relationships that aren't organic or sustainable is moot anyway cuz they'll can your ass the minute there's any problem or inconvenience or reciprocity expected. Better to be proactive and get ahead of it by making better choices for yourself and turning down worse options now when you have discretion and someone isn't forcing your move