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You sound like you've never had to care for yourself or a home a day in your life, and have no idea how the real world functions for anyone but the most privileged and entitled.
You're in for a real eye opener once you venture out on your own (or not, if you have the kind of privilege that would generate this mindset, I have a feeling you'll always have someone to go around after you cleaning up your messes and you may never get the slap in the face from reality you so desperately need).
Yeah I'll have my rude awakening when I can come home from work to zero chores and responsibilities, and do these chores like a speedrun on the day before I go back to work. The people cleaning up after me are robots, actually. Just floor cleaning bots. The money I didn't spend on everything a car needs will be spent on Amazon prime, subscribe & save, and fresh delivery.
Privilege didn't make me crazy about automation, actually my crazy ass mother who spent 30 HOURS grocery shopping every week making children pull an all nighter every Sunday did. Sunday was spent going to every grocery store ever on a fifteen plus hour excursion, then unloading for hours into a packed fridge of stuff that mother owned that no one was allowed to touch, then taking out trash which took hours because of trendy celebrity Superfoods™ that mother bought that she let spoil into black sludge that was always all over the kitchen. I will never let my life without family be this horrible. When I cut ties I will have the easiest life ever.
The thing about adulthood is that if I can't achieve my ideal life Right Now, I can WORK towards it, unlike a child who has to just deal with it. It'll take a while, and a lot of planning and WORK, but I'll achieve it as soon as I cut ties with family.
You managed to take a paragraph about growing up with enough money to go on several hour long grocery trips every week to keep a fridge full of food that nobody had to eat to not go hungry.. and tried to make it sound like it was the struggle that motivated you to greatness.
I hope you gain some perspective man. I really do hope you're the very young Tech Bro I pegged you as because you've got time to grow out of this nasty behavior.. best of luck to ya.
And this gave me perspective on...
Just now MUCH money that woman literally threw out!
And
That my neglect was much much worse than I thought. I lived like I was minutes away from being homeless, every day until I got my first job as a freelance dog sitter. Like stretching everything with water, having dirty clothes to stretch laundry detergent, using the shower like a bidet, sleeping when hungry instead of eating. When all of that was unnecessary as shit bro. I thought I hated that woman the most I possibly could but now I resent her more.
And how the rest of that family just TOLERATED that! The one relative originally doing the driving for the grocery excursions was a secondary breadwinner, and she died the other day. She paid half the bills, and that wasn't enough for that mother. That mother would scream and berate the relative for NOT driving and standing around for 15 hours in her days off. If that relative had more than two days off, then she'd be driving and standing around on all of them. Her WHOLE LIFE was just work, driving, and Candy Crush and now she's dead. Her daughter replaced her as the grocery excursion driver. And I AM THE FUCKING PROBLEM for suggesting ordering online!
Man. That woman should have never had kids. She married the stupidest men who probably settled for anyone who'd pay them attention, had all these kids she just used for money and neglected. Bloody hell when my online stores pop off I'm gonna donate to some charity to prevent this shit no fucking child deserves UNNECESSARY suffering. There's being born in an unfortunate situation (poor, homeless, etc, which shouldn't even be things but whatever) and having rich parents who deliberately withhold basic necessities. Suffering for NO FUCKING REASON bro.