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this is a horrible read. it's about how men not getting incentive to do the right thing would result in e.g. lawmakers being pressured to repress women. it's fine if they only 4b those who don't respect them or abortion
believe what you want, but as a gay man (i say this so you’re aware that there’s no misogyny involved edit: and by which i mean my personal sex life does not involve women so gender does not come into play in this specific situation), i’d never date someone where sex was off the table… i wouldn’t force it on anyone of course, but we fuck or we break up - sex is too important for my mental health to deny myself
Lmao at the idea a gay man can't be misogynist.
that’s not at all the intention of the comment - simply that when i make a comment directly related to my personal sex life, you’re aware that there are no women involved, thus the comment eliminates misogyny from the equation in that specific case. i’m sorry for not being clearer on that. i’ve added an edit to my comment so that it’s more apparent
My issue with 4b is we know it doesn't work.
What's the one thing that we know helps people stop being bigoted? Exposure to the people they're bigoted against. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2705986/
The 4b movement is like saying "the solution to racism is segregation"
On an interpersonal level, women absolutely should be wary of every man they come across, but that doesn't mean a more extreme version of that works as a cultural movement.