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Neither is bad.
That seems pretty contrarian, nobody likes being rejected and it's natural to feel envious or sad seeing someone else get the closeness you wanted. Whether or not rejection is a part of life or healthy in the long term it is going to be bad while you're experiencing it, and feeling negatively when seeing the object of your affection with someone else could arguably be unbecoming since you'll want the best for them but it's about ad human as it gets.
Idk I crush on a lot of folks, I'm also in a long term (polyam) relationship.
Why?
I tend to feel compersion over envy
Why? Because people feel what they feel.
The point is that there is a universalizing here of something that isn't universal