this post was submitted on 05 May 2024
54 points (83.8% liked)

Ask Lemmy

27027 readers
715 users here now

A Fediverse community for open-ended, thought provoking questions

Please don't post about US Politics. If you need to do this, try !politicaldiscussion@lemmy.world


Rules: (interactive)


1) Be nice and; have funDoxxing, trolling, sealioning, racism, and toxicity are not welcomed in AskLemmy. Remember what your mother said: if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. In addition, the site-wide Lemmy.world terms of service also apply here. Please familiarize yourself with them


2) All posts must end with a '?'This is sort of like Jeopardy. Please phrase all post titles in the form of a proper question ending with ?


3) No spamPlease do not flood the community with nonsense. Actual suspected spammers will be banned on site. No astroturfing.


4) NSFW is okay, within reasonJust remember to tag posts with either a content warning or a [NSFW] tag. Overtly sexual posts are not allowed, please direct them to either !asklemmyafterdark@lemmy.world or !asklemmynsfw@lemmynsfw.com. NSFW comments should be restricted to posts tagged [NSFW].


5) This is not a support community.
It is not a place for 'how do I?', type questions. If you have any questions regarding the site itself or would like to report a community, please direct them to Lemmy.world Support or email info@lemmy.world. For other questions check our partnered communities list, or use the search function.


Reminder: The terms of service apply here too.

Partnered Communities:

Tech Support

No Stupid Questions

You Should Know

Reddit

Jokes

Ask Ouija


Logo design credit goes to: tubbadu


founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

How much time have you spent being single?

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you're currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] ApostleO@startrek.website 20 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Currently somewhere around 10 years single.

I struggle with social cues, anxiety, etc.

It's lonely.

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I've been single for about 7 years myself & struggle with the same thing.

Would you say that you're confident in yourself or not so much?

[–] ApostleO@startrek.website 3 points 6 months ago

Confidence? Not so much. But it's less a fear of rejection, and more a fear of upsetting someone.

In short, my thought process goes like this:

  • Approaching women can make them uncomfortable.
  • I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable.
  • Therefore, I don't approach women.

I basically limit myself to online dating, but as we all know, that's a shit show unless you're in the top 10% on the scale of attractiveness. And so I've been single 10+ years.