Asklemmy

43962 readers

2086 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy 🔍

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

Open-ended question
Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

Lemmyverse: community search
sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
!lemmy411@lemmy.ca: a community for finding communities

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 5 years ago

MODERATORS

199

Tell us your definitive "I really should not do this" moment. (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by qyron@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

100 comments fedilink hide all child comments

Ever had one those moments in life when you know, beyond any shadow of a doubt, you are making a very, very bad decision, with a great chance for instant regret and a miserable, probably long lasting, outcome and notheless followed that path?

Yeah, that one. Care to share with us?

I'll start. I dated a person, after we had already dated for a very short time, during which I was cheated on and eventually was left for a fourth person.

Yeah, not my brightest moment. And yes, I was cheated on again and again was left for another person.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] Bathtubwalrus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Similar story about dating someone. I'm gay and she was my first serious girlfriend. Everything was cool just dating but then things got more serious and she wanted to get married. I didn't, but I was also young, had low self esteem, was inexperienced in dating, and didn't know how to cut things off. Over time I just realized she wasn't the type of person I wanted to spend my life with. So I kept pushing back the wedding date. We were together 4yrs and about 4months out from the wedding when I found out she had cheated on me. That was finally my wtf are you doing moment and I peaced the fuck out. I often think back about how miserable I would've been had I married her, and I'm so thankful I got out when I did. Whew.

Edit: oh shit I also forgot how badly she wanted kids, like that was all she talked about and one of our biggest disagreements. Thank God I never got talked into that. Props to being a lesbian and kids not being an "oops" possibility haha. Childfree life for me!

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh, you're also a woman. That makes this a bit more understandable.

[–] Bathtubwalrus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Oh yep, my bad. I see now how it could sound like I was a gay guy 🤣