threadloose

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[–] threadloose@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

Wow, I've been sexually assaulted too. Guess we're at a detente.

[–] threadloose@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

The database is here. You'll have to sign up for a free trial if you're not a subscriber to The Atlantic already. https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/09/books3-database-generative-ai-training-copyright-infringement/675363/

[–] threadloose@midwest.social 4 points 1 year ago

Oh, they're 100% pirated. Sorry this isn't open, but the preview should give you enough information. The database is available elsewhere, IIRC. https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2023/09/books3-database-generative-ai-training-copyright-infringement/675363/

[–] threadloose@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Hey, so, lots of rape survivors have asked people to stop framing rape as something that mars a person for life, because it's basically a rephrasing of the outdated idea of a "ruined woman". You can't ruin a person. A lot of people really struggle with the idea that they're dirty forever, and hearing that said by allies constantly doesn't help their recovery. You can still recognize the harm that rape does without reinforcing outdated concepts of purity, where before they were pure and unmarked and after they're "marred for life" with no recovery.

[–] threadloose@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

I have a recent Paperwhite, and you can still do the drag and drop thing with it. The Kindle shows up as a device on your computer, and you just need to get the files into the documents folder on it.

I can't remember off the top of my head if you can skip the setup with a new Kindle and not make an Amazon account.

[–] threadloose@midwest.social 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't have kids either, but my siblings and friends do, and kids today aren't just seeing a little porn. It's not like Playboys in the woods or a single 2 MB image downloaded for hours on dial-up. It's pretty violent sexual activities in video, like strangling or surprise anal sex. Even twenty years ago, my first sexual partners had moves they picked up from porn, but they weren't violent. Talking to young women today, the moves their partners are picking up and have been normalized by porn tend to be violent. Like, I never had a friend in college tell me that her boyfriend slapped her during sex and called her a dirty whore while she cried, but that seems to be a pretty common experience today.

The issue is that even older teens don't have the life experience to contextualize what they see in porn and separate it from how you act in real life. If you're into slapping people, that's fine, but you've got to talk to your partner about it before you do to. If you're getting your sex education from porn, then you don't get the people skills part that's important for successful relationships in real life.

This study touches on a lot of what I'm mentioning here, and they found a correlation between violence in teen relationships and porn viewing. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6751001/

So, yeah. I don't know what the solution is. I don't think it's sending a copy of your ID to a porn site, which seems incredibly risky for other reasons. I think sex and relationship education would help a lot, but that only connects with the kids who listen. Obviously there's a parenting component there, but I don't know how many parents are mentally health enough to have those conversations honestly. 🙃 Probably not the ones who wrote this bill.