"where simply existing wasn't stigmatized"... Yeah I think that's what most people want including immigrants and trans people. You might need to take a good hard look at yourself for seemingly arguing that a project making it's own community an unsafe space for people is fine but you're the victim because people on blue sky called one too many things transphobic.
Other than that your sob story makes it sound like you're a problematic person and I doubt I'm alone in thinking that. I don't ever remember seeing an excessive amount of accusations of transphobia on bluesky, let alone reddit since it's 80% Russian bots. So maybe, just maybe, the problem is you. Do you maybe have opinions that regularly get you called a transphobe? At least, that's how I read your victim story.
If you're going to write a word with so many Is like suicide you really shouldn't also throw in a lower case l. It took me forever to figure out what sucde meant because I was excluding the Is due to the trailing l. (Would've made more sense also if you just used the phrase offing ones self which you seemed fine with.)