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no one wants to hear your fucking for you page on the bus. this level of antisocial behavior is unforgivable

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we've had this struggle session before.

if you are blasting loud music in an area where people can not escape/have to use to for transportation: you are the bad guy. that's the end of it. we didn't all come here for a party. Nobody likes your music. we are trying to get home. please shut the fuck up.

[–] fishy@lemmy.today 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

About a month ago I hopped onto my normal train. Standing room only. After a couple stops half the train empties out so I see a seat. Plop down, start gaming. Guy in the next row starts scrolling social media with volume at full blast. "Hey man, could you put your volume down or pop in some headphones?" Guy looks like he just found out I murdered his children "Do you own the train? Who do you think you are sitting down and asking people to stop making noise? Where do you get off?" I reply "Holy fuck bud, it's rude as shit to be blasting your phone at full volume. No I can't stop you, but you're an asshole." He indignantly cranks volume to max. Next stop an old lady gets on and sits next to me. Looks at guy "Turn your phone down." I fucking lost it laughing.

[–] Tervell@hexbear.net 16 points 2 days ago

Next stop an old lady gets on and sits next to me. Looks at guy "Turn your phone down."

gigachad-hd old lady

[–] RomCom1989@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Getting into Hexbear heaven:

No,it's fine,I just didn't think it'd be a struggle sesh is all

Sidenote:You can tell how Yankee this site is by seeing how many people can't fathom the idea of common decency that doesn't align 100% with their own preferences

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 33 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (4 children)

This. I'm autistic and get over stimulated by loud noise and crowded spaces. Can we not just try to be a little more considerate. This seems like a really small ask.

[–] mononoke@lemmy.sdf.org 34 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Based on the responses in this thread I'm led to believe that "being in public" means you can do whatever you want without consideration for anyone else around you. News to me!

[–] ConcreteHalloween@hexbear.net 35 points 4 days ago

I mean really it's authoritarian to ask people to not shit in the park

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[–] Ram_The_Manparts@hexbear.net 51 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (7 children)

Lmao, I remember we had a struggle session about this back in the olden times, people were unironically doing the "fuck you I do what I want" thing arguing for this kinda shit lol

NO GODS

NO MASTERS

NO ESCAPE FROM YOU HAVING TO LISTEN TO MY PHONE BLASTING GARBAGE ON PUBLIC TRANSIT

[–] FloridaBoi@hexbear.net 9 points 3 days ago

I was trapped on a train for an hour where some girl had obviously just left a concert and kept replaying a Snapchat or TikTok she took of one of the songs. Idk if she was answering to replies but it was like a 30 second clip that she replayed dozens of times at maximum volume at midnight.

I didn’t care about the first several times but after a while it was really bad. I probably wouldn’t have minded it at all if the volume was lower.

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[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (7 children)

I can't think of them as anything other than psychopaths or narcissists.

They never spare a thought for anyone other than themselves and are totally self-absorbed in what they want, they disturb people around them and feel nothing about it. We're all NPCs populating their word, at most we only exist if we're useful to them.

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[–] Dessa@hexbear.net 18 points 3 days ago

Everybody can agree that auto-playing videos on like news sites or whatever are annoying. Well, the same goes in confined apaces

[–] rootsbreadandmakka@hexbear.net 29 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (3 children)

I agree with this. I think what the defenders are missing is that this is happening in a confined space and people are essentially forced to listen to whatever’s blaring out of your phone. If this was happening like in a park or on the street and no one had to stand by you it wouldn’t be a problem (at least not for me).

If people really need to listen to their phones there should be designated quiet cars, talking cars and loud cars or something

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[–] BearerOfPickles@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

Sounds good to me

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