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Malicious Compliance

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The original was posted on /r/maliciouscompliance by /u/jorg17h on 2024-02-16 17:38:30.


I work in the back office of a rather large hair salon owned by my family. I manage the stock, handle economic matters like bills, handle data entry for our customer base, solve potential hardware issues, and update our website and social media accounts. You could call me the accountant, IT support, and warehouse manager of the company.

I am diagnosed with AvPD (Avoidant Personality Disorder), and just being outside of my home equals constant agony. Hence, my family took me in to help in the store. Since my workload is fixed to a specific amount, and since I am somewhat overqualified for the job (I have studied statistics, actuarial-financial mathematics, and software development), I finish my daily duties within 1-2 hours of arriving. My only other responsibility is to close the shop (confirm that the money in the cash register is correct and lock everything, simple routine stuff). Also, I should note that I manage the economics of the whole family and have saved us about a minimum of 83,000 euros in the last 3 years, which is undisputed (I am being paid 10,000 euros a year, just as a reference).

Now, here's where the problem starts: my sister, who also works at the salon, is extremely obsessed with me being there for the full 8 hours of my shift. I understand that, but I basically end up staring at the wall and doing nothing for the remaining 6 hours of my shift. She is aware of my condition, but I can only deduce that she has dismissed it as "more than average shyness". All the while, I watch my life pass me by (now in my mid-30s, never even been in a relationship). I find myself in a situation where I feel like what I have tried to do for my family is going unappreciated, and the understanding that I ask for (going home for a couple of hours to relax from the stress before I need to come back and close shop) is considered disorderly conduct.

I am really grateful to my family for taking me in when I have no prospect of being employed by anyone else, but I struggle with thoughts of suicide and feeling like a burden because at the moment, my perceived contribution is what matters to me, not my objective one, and it's not something I can control.

So here is the solution I came up with, if you can call it that: I'll just remodel the office area in a way that allows me to do nothing, for example, watch Netflix while being there. This way, I will be a bit more able to cope with having to be out of my safe space for so long. Now they will be able to enjoy me working super slow and watching Netflix for 8 hours a day, using the office electricity and air conditioning.

I understand this was mostly a venting post. You can feel free to tell me why I am completely unreasonable below!

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