Are you not having a good time? Does she tell you/make you do things you don't want to do? Does she scream at you or try to coerce you when she is angry?
If yes, problem. If no, no problem.
this post was submitted on 09 Sep 2025
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Exactly, OP is the writer of their own story and it's ultimately up to them to decide if it's going to be problematic.
Thanks! No problem then :)
It's definitely a larger age gap than usual, but if you're especially mature for your age/she's especially immature, my opinion is that it shouldn't matter to others as long as you're both happy.
On the other hand, if you're asking about it and think it might be a problem, it might be worth having a conversation with her about it.
it’s a lil iffy to me… i would say min/max two years to date someone at your age
When she graduates, she will likely look towards others who are closer to her age. Heartbreak sucks. IMO, better to back off on the romance in this situation.
Think of how much you grew up between 11 and 14. It's even more pronounced between 14 and 17.
This is not a good idea, whether it feels good or not.
Besides, in a year if you kiss, she's a pedo. If it will suddenly not be ok then, it's probably not ok now.