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I have been with mine for 2 years <33 My beloved.

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[โ€“] newbeni@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

29 years together, 26 married

[โ€“] klemptor@startrek.website 4 points 17 hours ago

It'll be 25 years this week!

[โ€“] Truffle@lemmy.ml 4 points 17 hours ago

20 years together, fourteen of them married.

[โ€“] HubertManne@piefed.social 5 points 18 hours ago

Bit over 25 years.

[โ€“] just_ducky_in_NH@lemmy.world 5 points 19 hours ago

41 years. We got engaged two months after we met, married five months after engagement, and are still going strong!

[โ€“] DaniNatrix@leminal.space 2 points 18 hours ago

5 years! We're not really sure of the exact date cause ADHDยฒ lol we go with October cause shopping for Halloween decorations was our first date ๐ŸŽƒ

[โ€“] sunbeam60@lemmy.ml 3 points 20 hours ago

Coming up to 20 years, 17 years married.

[โ€“] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

Bout 6 or so years.

[โ€“] Awa@lemmy.world 3 points 21 hours ago

27 years together, 24 married

[โ€“] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 8 points 1 day ago

33 years, our 31st anniversary is in November.

[โ€“] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 2 points 22 hours ago

Coming up on 6 years in October!

[โ€“] NotSteve_@piefed.ca 3 points 1 day ago

10 years since June and getting married this coming September 27th

[โ€“] bunkyprewster@startrek.website 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[โ€“] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

Nice. I thought my 1991 was old but you're doing very well.

[โ€“] juliebean@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

i envy ya'll with concrete dates. my partner and i have been together somewhere around 10 years. we've been talking off and on about getting officially married, partly to have a precise anniversary lol

[โ€“] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 1 points 15 hours ago

Before we got married I figured this out via contextual chat logs and pictures.

[โ€“] thevoidzero@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can just choose a day and go with it. As long as both of you agree, and it's approximate it's fine. We just count earth going around the sun, it's divided arbitrarily, and Earth's never going to be in exact place anyway.

[โ€“] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 5 points 22 hours ago

Yeah, at some point I just chose my cat's birthday since we only had a ballpark age from the shelter.

1 week now, lol

[โ€“] mateofeo85@lemmy.world 10 points 1 day ago

Together for 12 years, married for 6 years.

[โ€“] MxRemy@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago

One partner 8 years, the other 4. Still just as deeply in as love!

We're hitting 10 years married this October! 11 years together.

[โ€“] cute_noker@feddit.dk 5 points 1 day ago

7 years. Time flies..

[โ€“] Nemo@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 day ago

April 29, 2009

We met two days before. Three months later we were engaged, a year after that we were married. No regrets.

[โ€“] SourGrapez@piefed.social 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[โ€“] olivergarden@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[โ€“] 0_0j@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Shit. Y'all too sweet to be real

[โ€“] Laukatt@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago

11 years ๐Ÿฅฐ we are both 29 years old

[โ€“] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Partnered for 8yrs 4mo
lived together 8yrs 9mo
known each other 8yrs 10mo

[โ€“] Nemo@slrpnk.net 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

if I'm reading this right, you hooked up with your roommate? That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

Yep! My best friend's sister, too ๐Ÿ˜…

[โ€“] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

Met in 1984. Engaged around 1986. Various hardships ensued. Purchased house together in 2000. Married in 2004. Kid in 2009.

[โ€“] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

11 years, married for 2.5

[โ€“] Zagam@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Together for 22 years, married for 15.

[โ€“] spongebue@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was going to say that's a long time, then I realized I'm not too far behind! 18/13 for us.

[โ€“] Zagam@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago

Shit goes fast yo. Like Tom Waits says- Fall in love and get married then boom; How the hell did I get here so soon?

32 years ๐Ÿ‘ด๐Ÿป

[โ€“] Fondots@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

Coming up on 7 years married, probably about another 2 maybe 3 years together (she seems to think we were dating for a while before I realized it, I'm kind of dense)

We were friends for probably about another 2 or 3 years before that, and for probably about that long again before that we kind of recognized each other as friends-of-friends but only ever bumped into each other in-passing and didn't hang out.

[โ€“] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

19ยฝ years

[โ€“] Saprophyte@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

15 years together, married 13 next month.

[โ€“] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 day ago

25 years, or at least by the date we sort of agree on the first year is a little fuzzy lol.

Together for a little over 9 years, married for about a year! ๐Ÿ˜

together for 4 days I think??

[โ€“] fossman2112@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 day ago

Started dating right after 9/11, not married until 2014. Still together.

[โ€“] Botzo@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Our first official date was opening night for the Nic Cage movie The Family Man. Married 3.5 years later.

We've been married eleven years, but together for about twenty three. He's still putting up with me, it's wild!

Together for 16, married for 11 or 12

22 years, been married for ~18 by now... Married twice, to the same woman, first time for the paperwork (that was called a Registered partnership, legally the same as marriage, with a slight difference in the type of "contract"), second time (actual marriage) for the party. Second wedding was 15 years ago

[โ€“] PetteriPano@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

13 years. Married for 6.

First two years were mostly long-distance.

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