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I have been with mine for 2 years <33 My beloved.

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[โ€“] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

Coming up on 6 years in October!

[โ€“] doingthestuff@lemy.lol 4 points 9 hours ago

33 years, our 31st anniversary is in November.

[โ€“] NotSteve_@piefed.ca 1 points 7 hours ago

10 years since June and getting married this coming September 27th

[โ€“] BananaPeal@sh.itjust.works 2 points 12 hours ago

We're hitting 10 years married this October! 11 years together.

[โ€“] Laukatt@piefed.social 1 points 10 hours ago

11 years ๐Ÿฅฐ we are both 29 years old

[โ€“] juliebean@lemmy.zip 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

i envy ya'll with concrete dates. my partner and i have been together somewhere around 10 years. we've been talking off and on about getting officially married, partly to have a precise anniversary lol

[โ€“] thevoidzero@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

You can just choose a day and go with it. As long as both of you agree, and it's approximate it's fine. We just count earth going around the sun, it's divided arbitrarily, and Earth's never going to be in exact place anyway.

[โ€“] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 3 points 1 hour ago

Yeah, at some point I just chose my cat's birthday since we only had a ballpark age from the shelter.

[โ€“] bunkyprewster@startrek.website 8 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 points 15 hours ago

Nice. I thought my 1991 was old but you're doing very well.

1 week now, lol

[โ€“] Saprophyte@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago

15 years together, married 13 next month.

[โ€“] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 2 points 14 hours ago

11 years, married for 2.5

[โ€“] cute_noker@feddit.dk 4 points 16 hours ago

7 years. Time flies..

[โ€“] MxRemy@piefed.social 5 points 17 hours ago

One partner 8 years, the other 4. Still just as deeply in as love!

[โ€“] apotheotic@beehaw.org 1 points 12 hours ago

A year and a half, a year, and a month, in order of duration :3

[โ€“] mateofeo85@lemmy.world 9 points 21 hours ago

Together for 12 years, married for 6 years.

[โ€“] Nemo@slrpnk.net 4 points 18 hours ago

April 29, 2009

We met two days before. Three months later we were engaged, a year after that we were married. No regrets.

[โ€“] SourGrapez@piefed.social 5 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] olivergarden@piefed.social 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[โ€“] 0_0j@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Shit. Y'all too sweet to be real

[โ€“] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

Partnered for 8yrs 4mo
lived together 8yrs 9mo
known each other 8yrs 10mo

[โ€“] Nemo@slrpnk.net 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

if I'm reading this right, you hooked up with your roommate? That's a bold strategy, Cotton.

Yep! My best friend's sister, too ๐Ÿ˜…

[โ€“] Xaphanos@lemmy.world 7 points 21 hours ago

Met in 1984. Engaged around 1986. Various hardships ensued. Purchased house together in 2000. Married in 2004. Kid in 2009.

[โ€“] geekwithsoul@piefed.social 5 points 20 hours ago

32 years ๐Ÿ‘ด๐Ÿป

[โ€“] Fondots@lemmy.world 5 points 20 hours ago

Coming up on 7 years married, probably about another 2 maybe 3 years together (she seems to think we were dating for a while before I realized it, I'm kind of dense)

We were friends for probably about another 2 or 3 years before that, and for probably about that long again before that we kind of recognized each other as friends-of-friends but only ever bumped into each other in-passing and didn't hang out.

[โ€“] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

19ยฝ years

[โ€“] AlternateRoute@lemmy.ca 3 points 18 hours ago

25 years, or at least by the date we sort of agree on the first year is a little fuzzy lol.

[โ€“] Botzo@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Our first official date was opening night for the Nic Cage movie The Family Man. Married 3.5 years later.

[โ€“] Zagam@piefed.social 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Together for 22 years, married for 15.

[โ€“] spongebue@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I was going to say that's a long time, then I realized I'm not too far behind! 18/13 for us.

[โ€“] Zagam@piefed.social 1 points 7 hours ago

Shit goes fast yo. Like Tom Waits says- Fall in love and get married then boom; How the hell did I get here so soon?

Together for a little over 9 years, married for about a year! ๐Ÿ˜

together for 4 days I think??

[โ€“] martijndevrieze@europe.pub 1 points 16 hours ago

22 years, been married for ~18 by now... Married twice, to the same woman, first time for the paperwork (that was called a Registered partnership, legally the same as marriage, with a slight difference in the type of "contract"), second time (actual marriage) for the party. Second wedding was 15 years ago

[โ€“] toomanypancakes@piefed.world 3 points 20 hours ago

We've been married eleven years, but together for about twenty three. He's still putting up with me, it's wild!

[โ€“] PetteriPano@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

13 years. Married for 6.

First two years were mostly long-distance.

[โ€“] ghost_towels@sh.itjust.works 1 points 16 hours ago

20 years this Christmas, married for 15. Still my favourite person to putter around with.

[โ€“] sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 1 points 16 hours ago

Holy shit y'all make my relationship feel young. 5.75 yrs

[โ€“] WhiteOakBayou@lemmy.world 2 points 19 hours ago

Together for 16, married for 11 or 12

[โ€“] fossman2112@lemmy.ml 1 points 17 hours ago

Started dating right after 9/11, not married until 2014. Still together.

[โ€“] Core_of_Arden@lemmy.ml 0 points 16 hours ago

Why? That's not really relevant for anything... I've had multiple relations and I love most of them. A few hurt me, most healed me, and most were very passionate. The one I'm currently entertaining is perfect for me.