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I like women. I like the shape and curves of the female body. I like boobs, I like asses, I like pretty vaginas. I also appreciate and am aroused by a nice cock. I'm however not otherwise attracted to the male body. I like femboys as long as they have a feminine-like shape and curves, as many of them do.

WTF is my sexual orientation?

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[–] Katrisia@lemm.ee 6 points 8 months ago

From Wikipedia:

Polysexuality has been defined as "encompassing or characterized by many different kinds of sexuality", and as sexual attraction to many, but not all, genders. [...] Polysexuality is also considered to be another word for bisexuality however unlike bisexuals, polysexuals are not necessarily attracted to people of the same gender.

I think 'polysexual' fits. You like some genders (cis women, trans women, feminine-presenting people, AFAB NBs, etc.), but not all.

[–] CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Very similar position here.

I've always felt that it wasn't anyone's business but my own and the person I want to touch. I don't worry about putting myself in a box so I don't wear a label.

Those that "need" to know are told that I am "independent". What does that mean to me? It means I decide who I want to fool around with. Sex is more than just tabs and slots.

Although I have found that this answer is unacceptable to nearly everyone, so I can't say I recommend it.

[–] 0ops@lemm.ee 4 points 8 months ago

I'm with you, (not on dicks but on my approach to sexuality). I'll gladly decide what kind of person I want to fuck on a case-by-case basis, but it's really not a big part of my personality. Statistically, I'm straight, but if I sorted everyone in the world by how much I wanted to fuck them, some dudes would find themselves ahead of some girls. There's not enough of those cases for me to bother dating guys, but you know

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 1 points 8 months ago

Although I have found that this answer is unacceptable to nearly everyone, so I can't say I recommend it.

This is just my view but if my nebulous sexual orientation is a turn off for someone then I'm perfectly happy to have them express themselves early so I can block them and move on. I'd rather fuck people I like and who like me.

I know this dates me but I was in serious relationships before gay marriage was legalized in the US... It was an excellent screening topic because the rabid opponents to it couldn't keep their mouth shut and I'd be able to abort my evening early and not waste time... sort of like Trump hats today - if a waiter is walking me to a table with someone in a Trump hat I'll just tip them and ask them to let the person know I called the restaurant and couldn't make it.

[–] SendMeYourTatas@kbin.social 6 points 8 months ago

Thank you for asking this. I'm the same way but never got around to asking. I also like trans women as well (not just sexual), so there's that. Best of both worlds imo lol

[–] cowfodder@lemmy.world 5 points 8 months ago

Pansexual. You are pan. You're attracted to what you're attracted to but don't care what label it has.

[–] Bonehead@kbin.social 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)
[–] dumples@kbin.social 4 points 8 months ago

Its quite common for some straight men to only be attracted to penises. All men generally have an dying love for their own penis so it make sense that it spreads to some other penises. But here is the things about labels you can really pick whatever you want. You can call yourself bi or straight or whatever label you want.

[–] bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 4 points 8 months ago

I've heard the term heteroflexible. Maybe that suits you. But in the end I think labels aren't really necessary. You like what you like. And there are so many facettes to that it is probably impossible to invent a label for everything that is possible.

[–] sincle354@kbin.social 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

If you want to know where I stand, my trans boyfriend came out a long time into our long distance relationship and he wanted surgery. I was a bit torn on the idea, but what really sold me was that he was gonna have a dick if he did surgery. THAT was cool with me, and likewise with the body shape thing. Boobs, ass, vagina, dick is all good with me, balls included.

And the cool thing is? He's having second thoughts on it now that he's moved in with me and away from their parents. Given the freedom to choose gender identity regardless of their body, they are a lot happier and don't need to pigeonhole themselves into a sexual/gender stereotype. I, for one, don't care. His sexual orientation is demisexual due to need for emotional connection, whilst mine is pansexual(?) because I honestly don't care. He does it for me and that's great.

It might be comforting to know that pansexual as a label exists and that your preferences are shared with others. You might find quite the assortment of... 2d images online. By the ratios it's 8:5:1 for female bodies:male bodies:female bodies with dicks. Really, it's not that uncommon. You might find even more freedom once you find the people that give you the liberty to truly own my desires. Feel free to interact with femboys, strapon girls, intersex people, whatever and wherever. Your sexual arousal needs no words to justify itself.

[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 4 points 8 months ago

If you want a label, I feel "polysexuality" fits what you're describing.

Honestly, I'd just tell people you're straight though. If trans women are women, then liking transwomen is straight. Any anyone you're not sleeping with doesn't have any business inquiring about your partner's (or your) genitals.

[–] Fedizen@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Mac from it's always sunny.

[–] XeroxCool@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

My interpretation is you enjoy looking at it the same way you enjoy watching other people have fun. You know what it's pleasure feels like so it's familiar. I suspect this is also a driving factor for a preference for anal porn. Men don't know what it's like to have vagina, but they've got some key similarities to a female ass in sensation (that's not a joke about a butt being a butt, the vagina and clitoris has nerve endings that are stimulated during anal).

[–] nandeEbisu@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

I feel like when I was growing up, you just were in a fairly coarse bucket as your label with the assumption that people could have very different preferences within there.

The way I would have characterized what you described as being bi because you are interested in both genders' genitalia, but had a preference for feminine body types.

[–] kttnpunk@lemmy.world 2 points 8 months ago

You're a straight guy who likes getting fucked. This is way more common than you'd think and shouldn't be a big deal in a healthy society.

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