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My dad helped me shave my face, it's really not very different. It's just personal grooming.
Honestly? Congrats, you're the dad many people wish they had. I'm not going to do that with my nephews, but I hope I get close to that aperture and understanding.
Not weird in my book! I used to shower with my parents when I was little.
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I would say that I think it's weird because I think shaved pubes are weird (and experienced horrific razor burn when I tried it back in college).
Sounds like you are a fucking rockstar dad though. That's a very vulnerable thing to think about asking your parent for a teenage boy. Lots of self-consciousness and trying to figure oneself out. That he felt comfortable asking you says a lot. That you stepped up to ensure that he knew how to do so safely says a lot too.
No boundaries were crossed. If anything you created a memory for him and when his son ask him for help he will remember this moment and repeat what you showed him. A+ dad!
https://www.usa.philips.com/c-m-pe/oneblade-trim-edge-and-shave/oneblade-intimate
If you or your son (or anyone else in this thread for that matter) ever want a slightly simpler option, with less likelihood of cutting, I recommend this. It has been a game changer for me personally.
holy shit the usb-to-AC cable is real
That's better...
They also have these, https://www.usa.philips.com/c-m-pe/body-groomers
Yeah I use this one to great effect
It’s only weird if you keep shaving them for him. Open conversations like that are a sign of great communication and trust!
I know that removing pubes can have a health impact for vagina owners. I don’t know if that holds true for penis owners. That may be something to investigate and advise.
As a penis owner who sweats a lot, keeping things shaved helps prevent things from smelling funky.
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Trust your gut when it comes to these things - which it seems to me like you did. Doesn't matter if everyone around you agrees. Still kudos for seeking a reality check. Better safe than sorry.
So the short answer is yes. It's weird.
The long answer is, and I have a 15 year old girl, is that pretty much everthing we do at this point is going to be weird or awkward.
Is what you did more awkward than normal also yes.
I'm not trying to save you from this sir.
Proud of you man. Growing up didn't have dad around, so I remember being embarrassed when my school mates were talking about shaving. Then out of the blue, one of my uncles gifted me this gift pack of razors, and went on to explain how to do it. Also explained why you need to separate razors for pubic hair from other uses anywhere else.
Damn, Uncle for the win!
I can’t help but wonder if people around me would think it crossed a boundary.
More details please: How many people have been around when you did that?
(You don't need to tell the others)
(Personally and irrelevantly to your question, think it's weird to shave your pubes, and I think that based on who started that trend, why they started it and why it became popular, but people younger than me, who don't remember any different disagree strongly.)
But the fact that your son trusts you with that question and that you calmly helped him and didn't make a big deal out of it, is an absolute parenting win. Who does your teenaged son go to when he's worried about something personal and sensitive and embarrassing? He goes to you, and you help him and he is right to trust you.
You are doing excellently as a dad.
Looking forward to 2078 when we'll be forced to show our kids how to copulate for procreation and what to use the tools of procreation for personal and group recreation.
Anyway kids, you then grab it and you do this back and forth motion on it. Yes billy, just like the jiggler dumbbell commercial!
Maybe atypical, but I wouldn't call it weird like it was wrong or something. Though I'm not entirely sure what there is to show. I feel like you kinda just have to get the hang of it yourself. The risks and fears are not irrational. No one wants to knick down there. But the concept is pretty straight forward.
there is one extremely important thing to teach: pull the skin taut
so long as the skin is taut you're way way less likely to cut yourself
This is true, but I felt like I already learned that lesson shaving my face, ya know the classic chin up position to make the neck skin taught. But you right it's far far more important down there. Way more room for error.
Personally I'd think that as too much. Verbally describing it would be the limit for me.
If he's reasonably intelligent I'm sure the explain explanation and some tips would be fine. It's not rocket science.
But I guess it's good he's comfortable with you. But if you kind of don't like it or something just don't do it. But I'm sure it was fine I guess. I do wonder why he needed to be shown though