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The bees. All our hives made it through winter and a fairly mild spring so far has given them a boost. Queens are laying like crazy, workers are working hard.
I've started wearing very thin gloves while inspecting the hives after realising that they make it less likely I'll be stung, because I can be gentler. A bonus is that I can feel the warmth of the bees, and that really does bring me joy.
I have a ticket out of the US
lol
What is a better expression of happiness than laughing out loud?
Cycling now that the weather's warmer. My family and pets. Coffee and word games.
Thanks for the reminder to look for the good. I often feel like there should be so much more, but I know that's more than some people have, so I should feel lucky.
Sunlight, food, my handsome partner, orgasms, music from my past, sleep, my cat, socializing while playing videogames, the knowledge that I'm improving my physical state, angry validation from other queers, peace and quiet, masturbation, porn, drugs, knowledge in general, good anime, the long healthy grass I can see from my window, drinking cool clean fresh water, the filthiest queer poly cnc abo smut i can find, the degoogle tech movement, the anti-facist movement in paris, luigi followers, star trek, ice cream, gw2, making music, carbonated beverages, getting better at things, seeing pictures of myself in threesomes, looking forwards to good things :) in the future, being lusted after, being loved, feeling love for others, trying to find my people, learning about myself, meditation, the fediverse and being able to speak relatively freely again, living in a liberal area, knowledge that I live in a liberal area and don't have to fear as much, cozy outfits, cuddling, piracy, helping make technology that I believe is ethically good, seeing people that also want to do good in the world and have a spine about it,
Yeah that's all I've got for now.. basically it circles around setting the good things in life, no matter how small, and also appreciating the few objectively nice things I do have in life, like a loving partner and my functioning senses.
I'm glad you have so much going on to appreciate, sounds like you've got it made in the shade!
Sobriety. 2 years 3 months since I've drank.
Still relearning some aspects of being an adult. Figuring out who I am. Picking up old hobbies again and trying new ones. So many things bring me joy nowadays where it used to only be alcohol that triggered the ol happy brain chemicals.
I'm in a much better place than I was a couple years ago when I was abusing alcohol as a coping mechanism.
Oh hell yeah congrats! I dated an ex alcoholic (very close to dying) and his thing now is running, eating ultra efficient nutrients like honey and liver, and not using soap ever for anything. He's one of the happiest guys I've seen in a long long time. Though, he does preach a bit, I can understand his zeal hahaha
Thanks :) I don't really talk about my sobriety with a ton of people in person, still some shame associated with who I used to be, appreciate being able to share online.
And yea exercise in various forms is one of my big things now, definitely relatable, I try not to be preachy about it. Lifting, swimming, and rollerblading recently. I need to do more yoga though... I'm in wayyyy better shape than I was two years ago, feeling almost as good as my college athlete days.
If it means anything, I'm of slim-average build and working in my 20s (painter in construction) destroyed my knees and I've been walking a few times every week for the past month to rehabilitate them because I'm tired of not being able to do stuff. We can do it! It's worth it!
Heck yea! Walking around the block is where I started again a couple years ago. It's definitely worth sticking with it. Life got in the way a few times and I had to be gentle with myself and repeatedly remind myself that progress isn't linear, and that doing something is better than nothing.
What do you think about the idea that people need to actually realize their mortality before being able to really live?
Not sure. I've never really reflected on that idea. It certainly seems to be true for me personally.
My alcoholic years had some pretty ugly parts and could have killed me several times. Severe depression, self harm, suicidal thoughts, wrecked my car (thankful it was just me and a steep curb, no one else involved, that could have been so much worse), a hospital trip, walking 2 miles home by myself at 3am almost every weekend while hammered in the middle of a US city known for its crime and lowkey wanting someone to try to mug me, etc. Let alone the physical damage that 50-100+ standard drinks per week at my worst was doing to my body, luckily none of that seems to be permanent, I was scared to get my blood work done for the first year alcohol free, but it came back fine.
I don't like looking back on that period of my life, but I've come to terms with the fact that it happened and I can't change that and mostly been able to forgive myself.
So while it was ugly and could have killed me, shit at parts of it I wanted it to kill me, at the same time... I wouldn't be who I am today without all that (and a lot of therapy and self reflection and journaling and all that fun stuff). I really genuinely like who I am today. I haven't been able to say that for the majority of my life. And I find a lot more appreciation in the little things that I used to be too numb to see. I'm doing things I enjoy solely because I enjoy them, not because my family or parts of society say it's what I'm supposed to be doing.
I don't think I want that statement to be true for humanity as a whole, at least not in the way that I faced my mortality, I hope there are other ways people can get to a point where they feel truly alive. But yea I think it's true for me.
Thunder, lightening, the sound of rain on my window.
Love a nice storm, so relaxing in a way
Getting together with my friends online a couple times a week to play R.E.P.O.. I've been going through a rough patch with my fiance recently and being able to get out of my head and sneak around haunted houses has been really helpful
You gotta play hard to work hard, and work hard to play hard. Life is about balance. If you take loans out from your future, you still have to repay them. Always invest in yourself. I'm in a similar place as you, though not relationship wise, and I find the more I'm able to let go and carelessly lean into my actual interests, the better I feel. Weird how that works huh lol
The fact that this all is going to end sooner or later.
Ya, sometimes life can feel so overwhelming and I long for death, not in like a suicidal way, but just like the absence of the stress of everything
The closest friend i made since moving abroad alone 2 years ago, changed their mind and they are not moving out of the city. Also, two of my favorite bands put out killer new albums that fit the eternal combo of coffee+tobacco really well
What is life without good friends and music? I'm glad you have both of things bringing you joy right now.
Seeing Jason probably
Nice!
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My romantic life is painful and turbulent at best. My job is collapsing because of the tariffs. I owe too much on my car to keep it if I lose my job and it needs a new clutch anyways, which is about $3000 that I donβt have for the cheap one. Family is distant, cold, and unsupportive. My government is doing its best to make life (as a trans person) as painful as possible. Best friend died last year, my only other friend has just kinda fallen off the face of the earth. My hobbies are frustrating and unfulfilling. I have vivid nightmares nightly. My body is deteriorating to the point of near disability. I eat the same shitty $5 chicken sandwhich every day. Insurance wonβt cover therapy and suicide seems more and more likely by the day.
My coffee was warm this morning though so, I guess Iβve got that going for me today.
Damn, that's all so very heavy. Honestly, I wish I had prefaced this post in some way, because the truth of the matter is that not everyone is feeling happiness these days. I'm really sorry, especially for the persecution trans people are experiencing, y'all unequivocally do not deserve any of that. I hope things improve, and that you're able to find peace, safety, and meaningful happiness in your life, you deserve it β€οΈ
Partner and kitties. When they (kitties) aren't screaming at me while I'm on the phone for work while wfh. So fucking rude. That's sarcasm. No one seems able to infer it anymore.
Cats are brats but too cute so they can get away with whatever
I'm a month away from completing my union electrician apprenticeship. It's been a lot of work, and there is plenty more to come. But after five years of working towards something, it'll be nice to reach a big milestone.
Well done, that's a hell of an accomplishment that will set you up for life, world will always need sparkies
Iβm very happy to be a land owner. Just a few months ago I bought some land and now live in an RV on the land. Tomorrow we drive about 7 hours round trip and get the last of our stuff from storage. So happy to not pay that rent anymore.
We have fresh air, beautiful views, and tons of space to work on projects, free electric from solar, and soon free water from rain. I canβt wait to start our garden soon, then it will be free groceries.
Damn. Amazing. Are you in the States? What's your latitude/geography like? Do you have a water source, as well as electricity?
Living the absolute dream, that sounds like an amazing new venture and I wish you well in all of your future projects
My cat has been extra cuddly lately. Earlier she slept in my arms using one as a pillow.