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The original was posted on /r/maliciouscompliance by /u/real_bro on 2025-04-20 21:11:45+00:00.
I grew up in the 80s and 90s In a very strict branch of Christianity, sorta like Mormon and Jehovah's Witnesses. I didn't actually leave it until I was around 40, just a few years ago.
Today being Easter Sunday the family lunch was to be at my one sister's house. She's devout and her husband holds a position in church leadership. They still do this practice where they will not eat with people who've been removed from their church's membership due to some things Paul supposedly wrote.
I have basically never skipped any family events as a result of a concflict of my and their principles. Only if I'm traveling or have really important plans have I skipped.
My sister kept asking me if I'd be coming for lunch today and I read the messages but didn't reply. The issue was brewing for me already but I didn't have the guts yet to address the issue.
Around lunch time my mom asked if I was coming and I said something like "probably not, because of your shunning beliefs". She assured me that there were just two separate tables side by side and that those who left their church could be together at one of them. I said "nope, that's an issue for me, I won't be coming". I said basically "if you wish to shun me than I'll make sure I'm fully shunned by not attending".
I ended up eating some grocery store food by myself and I'm not upset about it.