Interestingly, they list us as a linked instance, so the block is from our side for some reason
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I got banned from blahaj on my first week here, because I think "dude" isn't necessarily a gendered term, and was willing to stand my ground on it. Mind you none of this was actually said on a blahaj thread, they just went out of their way.
A wise man of our time once declared, "I'm a dude, he's a dude, she's a dude, we're all dudes hey"
oh a wise man said that huh how surprising!
You can't say that, bro.
It may not be a gendered term for you, but it is for some. Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I'm not surprised you were banned when you go to what's meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.
That's kind of the point of federation, though. They can have their space with their rules of moderation and language. Someone else can have a more open experience. Those that want a more complete experience but push their values on other instances will be banned from those instances. Blahaj has great content, but it's often niche, and can be a little too moderated sometimes, but better to err on side of caution when many of the community have less ptions for where they jump to.
I don't entirely agree with this.
banned when you go to what's meant to be a safe space
He said he wasn't in a thread on Blahaj. He was just on Lemmy.
misgender people despite being asked to stop
But if he considers dude gender neutral (which is a fairly common view), then he didn't misgender anyone. Straight from Wikipedia:
In the early 1960s, dude became prominent in surfer culture as a synonym of guy or fella. The female equivalent was "dudette" or "dudess", but these have both fallen into disuse and "dude" is now also used as a unisex term. This more general meaning of "dude" started creeping into the mainstream in the mid-1970s.
So it seems he was falsely accused of misgendering someone, and when he clarified how he uses slang, said use wasn't respected.
Ofc I haven't seen his actual comment and it's entirely possible he was a total dick about it, but based on his explanation I feel it's a bit of an overreaction to moderate him.
I interpreted differently. I assumed the thread was on blahaj but was not a meta thread about blahaj. However, you're probably right.
If they were on another instance and just had a disagreement with a blahaj user about the term, then I'd say that's over moderation to block them unless they were being abusive, or a dick about it.
I could also see how a mod could block him as a user and accidentally block him from the instance if it was a year ago as mod tools weren't great. Although I don't use them.
However, as you say, depending on what the comments were, it could be the blahaj user was the one being the dick here.
Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I'm not surprised you were banned when you go to what's meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.
None of what you just said actually happened, though.
Great, do you want to clarify what happened? I'm sure it was innocuous, but it may not have been, from their perspective.
They just said they didn't say it on Blahaj.
Yes, my interpretation of what they said was that it wasn't a meta posts, but I agree, it was likely on a different instance. However, I also asked for clarityabout what was said and the user hasn't clarified. I couldn't find the comments they were talking about in their history of their first weeks. I did see other bans, from beehaw, but generally a pretty normal post history.
So, the mystery remains.
There are people on blahaj who will throw a fit if you use gender neutral terms in public without knowing what pronouns a person uses, so I wouldn't let it bother you.
All my friends must hate me, they're all dudes in my eyes
This is not related to the admin trying to take control over the instance or something but something else entirely
Appears unblocked now!
The admin monitoring this thread 👀
For anyone curious about what happened; the admin seems to have made a mistake while handling my report. I suspect the person currently handling the situation is unfamiliar with the workings of Lemmy.
Like 75% of my feed is Blahaj users. Glad it's been reversed but I'm still curious as to why it happened 😳
WTH. I joined this instance because it didn't block anyone.
Looking at the various recent mishaps, like this one, I'm two steps from offering my services as an instance admin. Or would be, if I wasn't already busy with a half-time job and the other half of the time wasn't trying to have a social life.
~~I presume a little parting gift from our new "friend"?~~ More probable explanation provided in another comment.
Why is kbin.cafe blocked? When I go to that link it's just an nginx proxy
Because it's an abandoned instance, or at least it was for a while
What the fuck? Why? Why block Blahaj of all instances? That really doesn't inspire confidence in this server or SDF. I can understand blocking instances like lemmygrad or hexbear, but blahaj? Seriously? Why?
I'm glad they reversed it, but why was it done in the first place?
@SDF@lemmy.sdf.org Can you please explain? I really want to know the reasoning behind such a decision to block specifically lemmy.blahaj.zone, was it a bug with something automated? Something prompted by suspicious behavior from them? Please explain.
If you don't want to explain publicly you may shoot me a message at matrix or to my SDF email. I just want to know.
The plot thickens
Are you a real person?
You're replying ultra fast on many different threads. Multiple people? AI? Caffeine? Cocaine? xD
Single person, chilling on a Sunday evening, willing Lemmy/Mbin/Piefed to succeed
can't you see their name?