The lighter side of ADHD
I'm autistic, so it's not a one-for-one; but some similarities to ADHD, and what's worked for me, is exercise.
Walk 10000 steps a day and go to the gym 3 days a week and lift as heavy as you can.
Use the GZCLP program and you're golden.
Plus, you get healthier AND you'll look better naked.
yeah ill get to that tomorrow thanks
Fuck don't say this, I'm 30
That's similar to my experience with getting diagnosed in my early 30s (after forgetting about a childhood diagnosis with no treatment). Missing from the statement is the profound impact to self-esteem from being incapable of doing things that one should be readily capable of and being told that one needs to "apply themselves", as well as the emotional self-harm from judging oneself by neurotypical standards.
Also, good seeing you posting again, Stamets. Hope things are going well.
I was diagnosed at the same age and identify with everything you said.
The most demoralizing thing is feeling worthless when society bases the justification for your existence on how well you impress in a "competitive job market", judged by sociopaths against neurotypical standards. Expected to be the most charming person ever while maintaining machine-like consistency.
No amount of self "it's okay buddy you're just different"s change material reality. And it's infuriating. :(
I wish I had some magical advice on that but, good therapy (with skills and experience with adult ADHD and trauma), radical acceptance, medication, and developing positive coping skills is what I've got. Still easy to fall into negativity.
A good learning that I had from my therapist is that, regardless of level of success in coping that one attains, going through childhood and early adulthood without support for ADHD and/or other neurodivergence is psychologically traumatic. And that trauma needs to heal. Unfortunately, just like grief, the scars are permanent but, we can get better and let the parts of us that get overshadowed by the trauma and maladaptive coping strategies get some time in the limelight (easier said than done).
true, but also -- 46
Diagnosed at 42....
Suddenly realize as a 24 year old i might be really young for lemmy. Every one is above 30s lol
Edit: and most seem to be ADHD, questioning what am i doing here.
37 actually
This one hurts.
Why do today what you can put off until tomorrow. The bane of every project, started or not.
43 but we are getting my son tested he’s 11 there were signs even when he was very young. I feel a little guilty we didn’t do it earlier.
You're doing it now. That's enough. 👊
Imagine going untreated even a decade after that
Even when diagnosed with medicine, I sometimes struggle to remember to eat it.
*33
I'm 30..and even medicated it's hell
34! I was hoping one day I'd figure out what to do in life and through that knowledge everything would just click into place and things would feel good and right and worth doing. Turns out the answer to life's great mystery is amphetamine.
been cleaning that basement tomorrow for 4 years now.
even started it twice.
I've just accepted that that's never going to be something I can do and that existence is pointless and miserable and I'm not capable of doing anything more than killing time till I die
As someone who finally got diagnosed at nearly 30, this hurts. Fuck, I've wasted so much of my life.